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Mums At Work™ . Centre for Coaching Excellence™
Centre for Transformational Leadership™ . Centre for Entrepreneurial Excellence™ . Centre for Personal Excellence™
Mums At Work™ . Centre for Coaching Excellence™
1. The Awaken Journey - Awakening People to their Good to Great Journey
1.4 Make a Difference deep-dive immersion
Check the seeker’s answer to the last question in the third prework — What is your most important question now, after doing all the pre-work, the answer to which would lead you forward in your life with velocity?
The uncovering of the answer to this question is the number one job of the 1st Make a Difference deep dive. Usually, the answer to that question will get uncovered once the coachee understands what the barrier is between them and their Dream Lifestyle.
The barrier between us and our dream lifestyle is our Fear consciousness. And, the work is about the coachee uncovering their Fear consciousness — it's not about us telling them what their Fear consciousness is. It's about them uncovering their Fear consciousness, and recognising that this Fear consciousness is what is blocking them from living in the expression of their undeniable greatness.
So, how do you help them uncover it, and how do you lead them to that realization?
1. Start the Deep-dive with the question:
How are you feeling in the moment?
If the answer is good, show the emotional range for the coachee to articulate what exactly is their emotional state in the moment. By naming the emotion, the intensity reduces if the emotion is limiting. If the emotion is positive, articulating the emotion maximises it.
Here's the emotional range:
Check the seeker’s answer to the last question in the third prework — What is your most important question now, after doing all the pre-work, the answer to which would lead you forward in your life with velocity?
The uncovering of the answer to this question is the number one job of the 1st Make a Difference deep dive. Usually, the answer to that question will get uncovered once the coachee understands what the barrier is between them and their Dream Lifestyle.
The barrier between us and our dream lifestyle is our Fear consciousness. And, the work is about the coachee uncovering their Fear consciousness — it's not about us telling them what their Fear consciousness is. It's about them uncovering their Fear consciousness, and recognising that this Fear consciousness is what is blocking them from living in the expression of their undeniable greatness.
So, how do you help them uncover it, and how do you lead them to that realization?
1. Start the Deep-dive with the question:
How are you feeling in the moment?
If the answer is good, show the emotional range for the coachee to articulate what exactly is their emotional state in the moment. By naming the emotion, the intensity reduces if the emotion is limiting. If the emotion is positive, articulating the emotion maximises it.
Here's the emotional range:
2. RYD Coach: Well Done for completing 3 levels of intense self exploration.
i. What is your most important question as an outcome of the 3 adventures the answer to which would most progress you on your good to great journey?
ii. Ask this question to help set the intention for the deep-dive: What needs to happen today that when we meet 5 years from today, you tell me that this conversation shifted everything for you?
Alternatively, you could ask the same question another way:
What needs to happen in today's deep-dive for it make a massive difference to you?
Ensure that the deep-dive answers this 2nd question as well to fully complete the intention of the deep-dive.
It's not about us giving the Seeker the answers. It's about them uncovering the answer. That is what makes coaching successful. Coaching is not about giving answers; coaching is about helping them uncover what their real questions are, and then supporting them to be in the enquiry to figure out their own answers.
In the Make a Difference deep-dive, coach the coachee to uncover their Hole-in-the-Soul, small mind, Whole Soul and Big Mind.
Here's a workbook for you to use and attach in the 4th Adventure to be sent to the coachee after the Make a Difference deep-dive:
i. What is your most important question as an outcome of the 3 adventures the answer to which would most progress you on your good to great journey?
ii. Ask this question to help set the intention for the deep-dive: What needs to happen today that when we meet 5 years from today, you tell me that this conversation shifted everything for you?
Alternatively, you could ask the same question another way:
What needs to happen in today's deep-dive for it make a massive difference to you?
Ensure that the deep-dive answers this 2nd question as well to fully complete the intention of the deep-dive.
It's not about us giving the Seeker the answers. It's about them uncovering the answer. That is what makes coaching successful. Coaching is not about giving answers; coaching is about helping them uncover what their real questions are, and then supporting them to be in the enquiry to figure out their own answers.
In the Make a Difference deep-dive, coach the coachee to uncover their Hole-in-the-Soul, small mind, Whole Soul and Big Mind.
Here's a workbook for you to use and attach in the 4th Adventure to be sent to the coachee after the Make a Difference deep-dive:
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3. From there, the next enquiry is: What is the access to human beings' happiness? Let them know that as a coach, you do not claim to know the truth. Say, "I do not claim to know the Truth. My job is to help you uncover your Truth. So all I will give you is a hypothesis, and I want you to step into a conversation with me like a scientist and ask as many questions as possible, for you to intellectually understand that hypothesis. We will devise experiments for you to run in your life, for you to uncover what your Truth is — because only your own Truth can move you forward. We cannot live life from somebody else's Truth. It's only from our own Truth that we can take action and create our reality in alignment with our intentions and dreams."
4. RYD Coach: What is the source of human beings’ happiness? What gives access to human beings to be happy? I have a hypothesis which I want you to test. Before I share my hypothesis with you, I want you to write down five incidents in your life when you felt happy." Let them write them down. Then you say, "Okay, now that you have written them down, I will give you my hypothesis. Then you test that hypothesis against the incidents you have written, to test the validity of the hypothesis that I am offering."
5. RYD Coach: The hypothesis is that human beings feel happy whenever they experience growth. Growth could be personal — physical, energy, emotional, mental or spiritual growth. It could be relationship growth. It could be business or professional growth. It could be leadership or impact growth. Or it could be growth in life — any progress in life. As human beings, we are designed in such a way that whenever we experience progress or growth in our lives, we instantly feel happy. Look at the five incidents that you wrote. Is this hypothesis validated?
If they say the hypothesis is not validated, ask them to share the incident where it is not validated, and then help them understand how, wherever they felt happy, there was growth. For example, somebody could say, "My daughter did well at work, so I felt happy." How is that growth? The fact is that when somebody else is happy and we are happy in their happiness, that relationship grows. That's the perspective you want to share.
6. RYD Coach: If growth is what gives us happiness, then can we say that our purpose this lifetime would be to maximise our growth?
Wait for their response.
7. RYD Coach: Is our potential limited or limitless?
They will say limitless.
8. RYD Coach: If we want to maximise our growth this lifetime, that means we want to realize our limitless potential. Would you agree?
Wait for their response.
9. RYD Coach: Most of us end up in the funeral pyre or get buried under the ground without realizing our limitless potential? What comes in the way of realizing our limitless potential?
Wait for their response.
10. RYD Coach: Can we say it is our fears that come in the way of living in the expression of our limitless potential?
Wait for their response.
11. RYD Coach: In that case, our purpose this lifetime would be to turn the torch of awareness inwards in search of our fears and do our inner work to continuously dissolve them, so that we can move towards living in the expression of our limitless potential.
12. RYD Coach: What is the measure of our growth?
Wait for their response.
13. RYD Coach: Can we say we can measure our growth by the quantum of the difference we make in the lives of people in our space, at work or at home?
Wait for their response.
14. RYD Coach: Therefore, can we say our purpose is to maximize our growth by realizing our limitless potential to make a massive positive impact in the world?
Wait for their response.
15. RYD Coach: Let's now investigate what is our barrier to realizing our limitless potential. What are our fears that block us from realizing our limitless potential?
If we can understand our own fears, then we can go beyond them to maximise our growth and happiness. Are you ready for an inner exploration?
Wait for their response.
16. RYD Coach: Write down five incidents when you felt mad, bad or sad; when you experienced an intensity of emotion from 9 to 22 on this emotional range. Leave space below each incident for reflection.
Give the Seeker time to write their incidents.
17. RYD Coach: Share with me your first incident.
Listen to them.
RYD Coach: Human Beings have 3 core fears:
i. I am not good enough.
ii. I am not important.
iii. I am all alone. No one loves me.
Put that experience under the microscope. Which one of the 3 core fears resonated the most in the moment of the experience?
Ask them to write that down under the incident.
Sometimes they may say - None of them.
18. RYD Coach: That’s all right. Let’s continue exploring. What was your limiting experience of yourself in that moment? I am…
What was your limiting experience of people in that moment? He is / She is …
What was your limiting experience of life itself in that moment? Life is …
It's only that nanosecond when you felt the intensity of emotion that we are bringing under the microscope, to investigate.
After you have helped them put each of these five incidents under the microscope of their awareness, they will begin to realise that there is a pattern. Bring all of this together: download the Energy Shifter presentation, which is a template, and type the pattern that is emerging while sharing your screen with them.
19. RYD Coach: This is a hypothesis of your default Fear consciousness. Write down the core fear at the centre, in the spiritual body, and the limiting thoughts about self, about others and about life itself, in the mental body.
Because of our survival-of-the-fittest evolutionary journey, our default response to our circumstances is from Survival Consciousness, from Fear Consciousness and that is the barrier to realizing our limitless potential to make a massive positive impact in the world and the barrier to Have It All.
Let’s uncover your Love Consciousness. Only from our Love Consciousness can we Have It All:
i. Nourishing, nurturing ourselves to the highest level of health, fitness and joyous well-being - physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually
and
ii. Happy, healthy, responsible, confident kids with their genius joyfully expressed
and
iii. Loving, harmonious, positive, uplifting relationships at home, in the world and at work
and
iv. Deeply fulfilling, successful, profitable business supporting us to live our purpose of life; gifting us with positive impact, contribution and financial freedom
and
v. Making a massive difference through the work we do
The only thing that will fill the hole in our soul is our inner resources. Nothing on the outside can fill the hole in our soul – neither success nor wealth nor power nor relationships. Here's a list of inner resources. Which 2 or 3 inner resources most resonate with you?
Let them choose.
20. RYD Coach: Put these in the centre of the right side — Love Consciousness — and let them repeat aloud a number of times: I am <their Inner Resources>
Let them change or update the words in a way that they have full resonance with their Whole Soul.
21. RYD Coach: What is the reality you want to create? Our thoughts create our reality. Big Mind are the thoughts that describe the reality we want to create. Vibrating with the energy of our Whole Soul makes us feel whole and complete. That's why it's called Whole Soul. And, when we are vibrating with the energy of our Whole Soul, then we can live from our Big Mind. Our Big Mind is the expression of the reality we want to create.
Invite them to create their Big Mind in the form of:
I am …
People are …
Life is …
Offer doubling statements. You could offer these statements as examples for them to choose from: I am happy, healthy and wealthy. I am successful and prosperous. People love, respect and appreciate me. Life is a fun adventure. Life is fun and ease. Life is magical.
After they have chosen their Big Mind. Let them say aloud 3 times their Whole Soul followed by their Big Mind.
22. RYD Coach: On a scale of 0 to 10, how much does this resonate with you?
If they are less than 10, let them change, edit and update their Big Mind statements till they get to a 10 on 10 resonance.
23. RYD Coach: These Consciousness Maps are a hypothesis. I want you to run a field experiment to test the validity of this hypothesis.
Whenever you are in a mad / bad / sad emotional state or are in a low energy state or are in an uncomfortable physical state, open RYD <Seeker Name> WhatsApp group and reflect on the Emotional Range to identify and name the feeling.
Check in if there's resonance with your Hole in the Soul and which statement of the small mind is creating the emotion.
The awareness of your emotion, the hole in the soul and the small mind thought at the source of the emotion will create an empty space in the moment - a space of grace.
In that moment, step into your Whole Soul and Big Mind by reminding yourself who you are by repeating your whole soul and Big Mind statements; and thinking, speaking and acting from there.
Come into our next deep-dive to share your observations and conclusions, if any, from this experiment.
24. RYD Coach: Let me share a story as we complete today’s deep-dive – There was a Red Indian Grandfather. He told his grandson: Grandson, we have 2 wolves inside of us – The Good Wolf and the Bad Wolf. The grandson asked: Grandfather, which wolf is stronger? The grandfather said: Whichever wolf you feed.
Similarly, we have both the darkness of our fear consciousness and the light of our love consciousness in us. Our purpose is to learn, grow and evolve from fear to love to joyously realize our dreams, live in the expression of our limitless potential and Have It All.
25. RYD Coach: Is this a good place to stop today?
Wait for their response.
26. RYD Coach: Are you complete about our work together or would a longer journey contribute to you?
Wait for their response. If they are complete,
RYD Coach: I will send you post-work for you to concretise and maximise your learnings. Wishing you the joy of the journey from good to great.
If they would like to explore further.
RYD Coach: In that case, we will schedule the next deep-dive with you and your leadership team. The focus of our deep-dive today was our 1st Growth Lever – Leadership Depth. The focus of the next deep-dive would be our other 2 Growth Levers - Business Excellence and Craft Mastery.
I will send you the postwork for today’s deep-dive to concretise and maximise your learnings. I will also email you the prework for our next deep-dive for you and your leadership team.
After the 2nd deep-dive if you have a 10 on 10 Inner Knowing that RYD is your structure of success to lead yourself and your business from good to great and a 10 on 10 Inner Knowing about me being the wind beneath your wings, we will have an Explore Conversation with Jyoti who is my coach to co-create the way forward.
Ready to play the next game?
Wait for their response.
27. RYD Coach: Let’s schedule the next deep-dive.
Co-ordinate for a date on the calendar for the next deep-dive.
28. RYD Coach: Let’s integrate our conversation –
This is the last segment, irrespective of whether they are proceeding to the next deep-dive or not.
i. What is your emotional state as an outcome of our deep-dive today? Share the emotional range on the screen for them to choose from.
ii. What did you learn today that most made a difference to you?
iii. What is the One Question you are taking back from today’s deep-dive the answer to which would most progress you on your good to great journey?
4. RYD Coach: What is the source of human beings’ happiness? What gives access to human beings to be happy? I have a hypothesis which I want you to test. Before I share my hypothesis with you, I want you to write down five incidents in your life when you felt happy." Let them write them down. Then you say, "Okay, now that you have written them down, I will give you my hypothesis. Then you test that hypothesis against the incidents you have written, to test the validity of the hypothesis that I am offering."
5. RYD Coach: The hypothesis is that human beings feel happy whenever they experience growth. Growth could be personal — physical, energy, emotional, mental or spiritual growth. It could be relationship growth. It could be business or professional growth. It could be leadership or impact growth. Or it could be growth in life — any progress in life. As human beings, we are designed in such a way that whenever we experience progress or growth in our lives, we instantly feel happy. Look at the five incidents that you wrote. Is this hypothesis validated?
If they say the hypothesis is not validated, ask them to share the incident where it is not validated, and then help them understand how, wherever they felt happy, there was growth. For example, somebody could say, "My daughter did well at work, so I felt happy." How is that growth? The fact is that when somebody else is happy and we are happy in their happiness, that relationship grows. That's the perspective you want to share.
6. RYD Coach: If growth is what gives us happiness, then can we say that our purpose this lifetime would be to maximise our growth?
Wait for their response.
7. RYD Coach: Is our potential limited or limitless?
They will say limitless.
8. RYD Coach: If we want to maximise our growth this lifetime, that means we want to realize our limitless potential. Would you agree?
Wait for their response.
9. RYD Coach: Most of us end up in the funeral pyre or get buried under the ground without realizing our limitless potential? What comes in the way of realizing our limitless potential?
Wait for their response.
10. RYD Coach: Can we say it is our fears that come in the way of living in the expression of our limitless potential?
Wait for their response.
11. RYD Coach: In that case, our purpose this lifetime would be to turn the torch of awareness inwards in search of our fears and do our inner work to continuously dissolve them, so that we can move towards living in the expression of our limitless potential.
12. RYD Coach: What is the measure of our growth?
Wait for their response.
13. RYD Coach: Can we say we can measure our growth by the quantum of the difference we make in the lives of people in our space, at work or at home?
Wait for their response.
14. RYD Coach: Therefore, can we say our purpose is to maximize our growth by realizing our limitless potential to make a massive positive impact in the world?
Wait for their response.
15. RYD Coach: Let's now investigate what is our barrier to realizing our limitless potential. What are our fears that block us from realizing our limitless potential?
If we can understand our own fears, then we can go beyond them to maximise our growth and happiness. Are you ready for an inner exploration?
Wait for their response.
16. RYD Coach: Write down five incidents when you felt mad, bad or sad; when you experienced an intensity of emotion from 9 to 22 on this emotional range. Leave space below each incident for reflection.
Give the Seeker time to write their incidents.
17. RYD Coach: Share with me your first incident.
Listen to them.
RYD Coach: Human Beings have 3 core fears:
i. I am not good enough.
ii. I am not important.
iii. I am all alone. No one loves me.
Put that experience under the microscope. Which one of the 3 core fears resonated the most in the moment of the experience?
Ask them to write that down under the incident.
Sometimes they may say - None of them.
18. RYD Coach: That’s all right. Let’s continue exploring. What was your limiting experience of yourself in that moment? I am…
What was your limiting experience of people in that moment? He is / She is …
What was your limiting experience of life itself in that moment? Life is …
It's only that nanosecond when you felt the intensity of emotion that we are bringing under the microscope, to investigate.
After you have helped them put each of these five incidents under the microscope of their awareness, they will begin to realise that there is a pattern. Bring all of this together: download the Energy Shifter presentation, which is a template, and type the pattern that is emerging while sharing your screen with them.
19. RYD Coach: This is a hypothesis of your default Fear consciousness. Write down the core fear at the centre, in the spiritual body, and the limiting thoughts about self, about others and about life itself, in the mental body.
Because of our survival-of-the-fittest evolutionary journey, our default response to our circumstances is from Survival Consciousness, from Fear Consciousness and that is the barrier to realizing our limitless potential to make a massive positive impact in the world and the barrier to Have It All.
Let’s uncover your Love Consciousness. Only from our Love Consciousness can we Have It All:
i. Nourishing, nurturing ourselves to the highest level of health, fitness and joyous well-being - physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually
and
ii. Happy, healthy, responsible, confident kids with their genius joyfully expressed
and
iii. Loving, harmonious, positive, uplifting relationships at home, in the world and at work
and
iv. Deeply fulfilling, successful, profitable business supporting us to live our purpose of life; gifting us with positive impact, contribution and financial freedom
and
v. Making a massive difference through the work we do
The only thing that will fill the hole in our soul is our inner resources. Nothing on the outside can fill the hole in our soul – neither success nor wealth nor power nor relationships. Here's a list of inner resources. Which 2 or 3 inner resources most resonate with you?
Let them choose.
20. RYD Coach: Put these in the centre of the right side — Love Consciousness — and let them repeat aloud a number of times: I am <their Inner Resources>
Let them change or update the words in a way that they have full resonance with their Whole Soul.
21. RYD Coach: What is the reality you want to create? Our thoughts create our reality. Big Mind are the thoughts that describe the reality we want to create. Vibrating with the energy of our Whole Soul makes us feel whole and complete. That's why it's called Whole Soul. And, when we are vibrating with the energy of our Whole Soul, then we can live from our Big Mind. Our Big Mind is the expression of the reality we want to create.
Invite them to create their Big Mind in the form of:
I am …
People are …
Life is …
Offer doubling statements. You could offer these statements as examples for them to choose from: I am happy, healthy and wealthy. I am successful and prosperous. People love, respect and appreciate me. Life is a fun adventure. Life is fun and ease. Life is magical.
After they have chosen their Big Mind. Let them say aloud 3 times their Whole Soul followed by their Big Mind.
22. RYD Coach: On a scale of 0 to 10, how much does this resonate with you?
If they are less than 10, let them change, edit and update their Big Mind statements till they get to a 10 on 10 resonance.
23. RYD Coach: These Consciousness Maps are a hypothesis. I want you to run a field experiment to test the validity of this hypothesis.
Whenever you are in a mad / bad / sad emotional state or are in a low energy state or are in an uncomfortable physical state, open RYD <Seeker Name> WhatsApp group and reflect on the Emotional Range to identify and name the feeling.
Check in if there's resonance with your Hole in the Soul and which statement of the small mind is creating the emotion.
The awareness of your emotion, the hole in the soul and the small mind thought at the source of the emotion will create an empty space in the moment - a space of grace.
In that moment, step into your Whole Soul and Big Mind by reminding yourself who you are by repeating your whole soul and Big Mind statements; and thinking, speaking and acting from there.
Come into our next deep-dive to share your observations and conclusions, if any, from this experiment.
24. RYD Coach: Let me share a story as we complete today’s deep-dive – There was a Red Indian Grandfather. He told his grandson: Grandson, we have 2 wolves inside of us – The Good Wolf and the Bad Wolf. The grandson asked: Grandfather, which wolf is stronger? The grandfather said: Whichever wolf you feed.
Similarly, we have both the darkness of our fear consciousness and the light of our love consciousness in us. Our purpose is to learn, grow and evolve from fear to love to joyously realize our dreams, live in the expression of our limitless potential and Have It All.
25. RYD Coach: Is this a good place to stop today?
Wait for their response.
26. RYD Coach: Are you complete about our work together or would a longer journey contribute to you?
Wait for their response. If they are complete,
RYD Coach: I will send you post-work for you to concretise and maximise your learnings. Wishing you the joy of the journey from good to great.
If they would like to explore further.
RYD Coach: In that case, we will schedule the next deep-dive with you and your leadership team. The focus of our deep-dive today was our 1st Growth Lever – Leadership Depth. The focus of the next deep-dive would be our other 2 Growth Levers - Business Excellence and Craft Mastery.
I will send you the postwork for today’s deep-dive to concretise and maximise your learnings. I will also email you the prework for our next deep-dive for you and your leadership team.
After the 2nd deep-dive if you have a 10 on 10 Inner Knowing that RYD is your structure of success to lead yourself and your business from good to great and a 10 on 10 Inner Knowing about me being the wind beneath your wings, we will have an Explore Conversation with Jyoti who is my coach to co-create the way forward.
Ready to play the next game?
Wait for their response.
27. RYD Coach: Let’s schedule the next deep-dive.
Co-ordinate for a date on the calendar for the next deep-dive.
28. RYD Coach: Let’s integrate our conversation –
This is the last segment, irrespective of whether they are proceeding to the next deep-dive or not.
i. What is your emotional state as an outcome of our deep-dive today? Share the emotional range on the screen for them to choose from.
ii. What did you learn today that most made a difference to you?
iii. What is the One Question you are taking back from today’s deep-dive the answer to which would most progress you on your good to great journey?
Read these articles to support you to help the coachee uncover their Hole-in-the-Soul, small mind, Whole Soul and Big Mind.
1. Road to Freedom
2. The Destination, the Car and the Pit Stops
Anytime during the deep-dive, you feel out of balance or experience loss of energy, anchor yourself in Gear 3 Consciousness:
I am extraordinary. I love myself.
You are extraordinary. I love you.
I trust the Universe. I trust the process of life. I am making a difference. I am a channel of massive positive impact. The Universe is gifting me my highest good, moment to moment.
In 1 hour 45 minutes, move to Integration Conversation to help the coachee to integrate their new learnings from the deep-dive.
1. Road to Freedom
2. The Destination, the Car and the Pit Stops
Anytime during the deep-dive, you feel out of balance or experience loss of energy, anchor yourself in Gear 3 Consciousness:
I am extraordinary. I love myself.
You are extraordinary. I love you.
I trust the Universe. I trust the process of life. I am making a difference. I am a channel of massive positive impact. The Universe is gifting me my highest good, moment to moment.
In 1 hour 45 minutes, move to Integration Conversation to help the coachee to integrate their new learnings from the deep-dive.