X. How do we discover our Hole in the Soul and Small Mind?

We start with a hypothesis and we test this through our experience of life. There are 3 core fears which we call as Hole in the Soul:
1. I am all alone. No one loves me. 
2. I am not good enough.
3. I am not important.

Write down 5 instances in your life when you felt mad, bad or sad. Choose those instances where there was an intensity of mad, bad or sad feeling. Chose at least one instance from recent past, at least one instance from your childhood, at least one instance which is professional and at least one instance with respect to a personal relationship.

For each instance, ask yourself:
1. The pain was because of which core fear?
2. What was my limiting experience of my own self? Write in the form of: I am ….
3. What was my limiting experience of other people in that instance? Write in the form of: People are ….
4. What was my limiting experience of life itself in that instance? Write in the form of: Life is …
You will find a pattern emerging. That pattern in the form of:

I am …
People are …
Life is …

is your Small Mind.
 
You will also find that the same core fear predominantly repeats across all the 5 instances. This core fear is your Hole in the Soul.

The above is your First Hypothesis of your Fear Consciousness.
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Do the below experiment to test this hypothesis and discover your Fear Consciousness:
i. Observe your emotions.

ii. If you find yourself in an emotion from 6 to 22 in the above emotional range, reflect to go deeper to understand the source of the low energy emotion – the core fear and limiting thoughts about your own self, about others and about life itself.

iii. Doing this over a period of time will support you to understand your default core fear (hole in the soul) and default limiting thought pattern (small mind).