XII. Discovering Limiting and Peaceful Warrior Roles

How do we discover our Limiting Roles (sourced in Fear Consciousness) and access Peaceful Warrior Roles (sourced in Love Consciousness) in our Emotional Body?

There are 4 types of limiting roles in our Emotional Body, sourced in our Fear Consciousness:

1. Critical Fighter or Persecutor – In this role, we vomit our limiting emotions on others.

2. Distracted Avoider – In this role, we distract ourselves from our limiting emotions.

3. Helpless Victim – In this role, we roll in the pain of our limiting emotions, feeling powerless and helpless.

4. Over-helping Rescuer or Super Hero Martyr – In this role, we shove our limiting emotions under the carpet and become numb to our emotions. We ease our pain by over-helping others, which reduce their power.

When our Being is Fear (Unconscious Incompetence), we keep circulating between these 4 limiting roles continuously experiencing unfulfilling lack of intimacy and authentic connection in our relationships. One of these dysfunctional roles is our home base where we most often find ourselves.

Each one of us will have our own multiple versions of each one of the limiting roles.

A role can be identified as three adjectives followed by a descriptive noun. A descriptive noun is usually a descriptive adjective which converts into a noun. For example, Critical becomes Critic.

One of my limiting roles is – Hardworking, Disengaged, Disconnected Busy-bee. This is an Avoider role when I avoiding feeling my low energy emotions by distracting myself with working hard, and in the process disconnecting with myself and therefore, with people in my life.

We are likely to have numerous roles for the same type of limiting roles. It will support you to progress on your good to great journey with greater ease, grace and velocity if you can identify all your numerous roles that show up in different situations and with different people.

In Role Theory in Psychodrama, roles are categorised into interpersonal roles and intrapersonal roles, each serving different functions in a person's psychological and social life.

i. Interpersonal Roles
These roles emerge in social interactions and are shaped by relationships with others.

They involve external behaviours and how one interacts with different people in different contexts.

Examples:
a. Leader in a business setting
b. Friend in personal relationships
c. Parent in a family dynamic
d. Mentor to a younger colleague
e. Player in a sports setting

ii. Intrapersonal Roles
These roles exist within the individual and relate to their internal world, emotions, and self-perception.

They involve internal dialogues, personal struggles, and self-identity rather than direct interaction with others.

Examples:
a. Inner Critic (self-judgment)
b. Inner Child (playfulness, vulnerability)
c. Wise Self (intuitive guidance)
d. Survivor (resilience in adversity)
e. Procrastinator (avoids difficult tasks) 

Exploring both types of roles through Psychodrama helps individuals understand themselves better, resolve conflicts, and integrate different aspects of their personality for greater well-being and growth.

We can progressively reduce the power of the limiting roles by becoming aware of which role is thinking, speaking and acting.

Through greater and greater consciousness through greater and greater awareness of our Fear Consciousness - hole in the soul, limiting thoughts, limiting emotions, low energy patterns and limiting habits - through Growth Habits and Transformative Practises, we create a gap between the One who is Seeing and What is being Seen. This gap is called the Space of Grace.

In this Space of Grace, we have the Power to Choose between Fear Consciousness and Love Consciousness. This Power to Choose gives us access to our Power to Create to generate Reality in alignment with our reality-defying intentions and impossible unimaginable crazy-big dreams.

Through Psychodrama, we experientially create the space between One who is Seeing and What is being Seen.

For every Limiting Role sourced in Fear Consciousness, we have a go-to Peaceful Warrior Role sourced in Love Consciousness for us to step into:

1. Critical Fighter or Persecutor  →  Assertive Challenger

2. Distracted Avoider → Truthful Engager

3. Helpless Victim → Powerful Creator

4. Over-helping Rescuer → Supportive Guide
 
Each one of us will have our own multiple versions of each one of the peaceful warrior roles.

A role can be identified as three adjectives followed by a descriptive noun. A descriptive noun is usually a descriptive adjective which converts into a noun. For example, Optimistic becomes Optimist.

One of my created peaceful warrior roles is – Courageous, Compassionate Trans-generational Pattern Breaker. This is an Engager role. Whenever I see the Disconnected, Disengaged, Shut-down Wife emerging during conversations with my husband, I choose to step away from that role and step into the role of Courageous, Compassionate Trans-generational Pattern Breaker to continue the conversation.

This role helps me to break free from the pattern of unhealthy relationship between the man and the woman in a marriage in my family. This Power to Choose gives me access to my Power to Create to change my energy in the moment to dance in a conversation with my husband.

These roles require us to feel them in our body. Intellectual understanding is not enough. That is why somatic practise like Psychodrama is extremely useful to become aware and understand our default limiting roles, and to strengthen our created peaceful warrior roles.

As in Limiting roles, there are multiple roles that we can create for each Peaceful Warrior role type which can be either interpersonal or intrapersonal.