Using Physical Body Symptoms to Coach

The Coaching Conversation between a Socratian and her Coachee

Coach: And, most important remember to take care of yourself and love yourself while you take care of the kids ❤️

Coachee: Yes I just thought of that this morning ! I’ve actually got a terrible shoulder catch on one side - always happens when I’m stressed 🙈

Coach: What is your terrible shoulder catch telling you? 
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Coachee: Yes I just thought of that this morning ! I’ve actually got a terrible shoulder catch on one side - always happens when I’m stressed 🙈

Coach What is your terrible shoulder catch telling you? 
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Coachee: To take care of myself and to not worry, my kids will be fine ☺️
And I am good enough - I am the best mother

Coach: Shoulders represent our ability to carry out experiences in our life. We make life a burden or a joyous experience by our attitude.

Coachee: I see the light in what you say - it has been joyous spending the whole week at home with the kids ! We got to spend some good time together :)

Coach: Lovely 💜

Taking from what you said, inviting you to take a thought with you and repeat it till it becomes your own. 

I choose to allow all my experiences to be joyous and loving

Coach: Test it out today and let me know how you and your shoulder are feeling by the day end /tomorrow. 

Loving you 💜

Coachee Sure 👍🏻
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The Same Coaching Conversation done Another Way

j - Well done at taking your coachee deeper using her physical body 💜

Thank you for creating a Learning Opportunity for all of us by seeking inputs.

Copied the conversation here to share how I would have responded for all of you to reflect and identify the Principles of RYD coaching in use:

Coach: I acknowledge you for being an amazing mother, <coachee name>. How are you feeling and doing while caring for your sick children, taking care of your work responsibilities at the same time and so many other things you take care of?

Coachee: I’ve actually got a terrible shoulder catch on one side - always happens when I’m stressed 🙈

Coach: I am sorry to hear about the pain in your shoulder, <coachee name>. Sending you love and healing to give you strength to create your perfect health and joyous well-being.

Which side of the shoulder is hurting you?

<This will give me a clue where is the experience of burden coming from - from the men in her life or from the women in her life or whether she is feeling burdened by the experience of being a mother / woman>

Coachee:

Coach: On a scale of 0 to 10, how much is the pain intensity?

Coachee:

Coach: Louise Hay, a teacher I learnt massively from through her books, mapped physical symptoms to mental thought patterns. She healed her clients by helping them become aware of their limiting thought patterns and shifting them.

As per her - Shoulders represent our ability to carry our experiences in life joyously. We make life a burden by our attitude of feeling burdened by our experiences.

Willing to play the game to heal your shoulder?

Coachee:

Coach: Super 💜

Include the below statements in your daily RYD Prayer of Gratitude:
The Universe is gifting me my highest good, moment to moment. All my experiences are joyous and loving.

Come into our next deep-dive to share what got created for your shoulder as you spoke the above statements as part of your RYD Prayer of Gratitude, 5 times a day, giving your power of belief to the statements in your RYD Prayer of Gratitude.

Coachee:

Coach: Well done for taking on playing the game to be at the source of your perfect health and joyous well-being 💜

Keep creating your well-being to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way.

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To the next deep-dive, I will take the following information with me for a deeper-dive:

1. Which side of her shoulder was hurting?
Left - Any issues with mother-in-law / mother / sister / experience of herself as a mother?
Right - Any issues with husband / father-in-law / father / work?

2. Her kids have pneumonia. Pneumonia, as per Louise Hay, is an expression of - Desperate. Tired of Life. Emotional Wounds that are not allowed to heal.

Our kids have diseases / physical conditions which could be an expression of our thoughts and feelings.

In the deeper-dive over Zoom, I would also look for these signs and use this as a way to take her deeper for her to see the darkness within she wasn't willing to see or was blind to so that she can do the work to dissolve the darkness.

3. In the next deep-dive over Zoom, I will check her in with asking her to assess her shoulder pain from 0 to 10.
And, get her to experience her Power to Create™ by being at the source of her own perfect health and joyous well-being.

Her acknowledgement of herself is far more important than her gratitude for me. Her experience of her own Power to Create™ is far more important for her progress on her good to great journey than her awe and admiration for me. I want her to experience her own power to create than be aware of me.

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RYD Coaching Principles at Play:

1. ​Gear 1: Agility of Mind: Spiritual Value - Love for Self: Consciousness - I am extraordinary and I love myself.
i. I am responsible for all that happens in my Space - Our physical symptoms are an expression of our energy, emotional, mental and spiritual state.

2. Gear 2: Being of Service: Spiritual Value: Gratitude: Consciousness - You are extraordinary and I love you.
Distinctions:
i. You are extraordinary and I love you - Relating to our coachees as extraordinary and acknowledging them for their positive qualities which they themselves may not be seeing.

3: Gear 3: Communicating Powerfully in the World of Others: Spiritual Value - Reverence: Consciousness - I trust the process of Life. I trust the Universe. I trust the process of life. I trust the Universe. The Universe is gifting me my highest good, moment to moment. I am a channel of massive positive impact. I am making a difference.
Distinctions:
i. Committed Listening
ii. Stepping inside the world of others
iii. Leading with Questions - Giving the Power back to the Coachee.
iv. Being an Empty Space - The Coachee is the Hero of their Life, not us.
v. Childlike trust and Faith 
vi. Relationship of Equals
vii. Authentic Connection

4. Gear 4: Delivering on our Word: Spiritual Value - Integrity: Consciousness - I am whole, complete and perfect as I am right now. You are whole, complete and perfect as they are right now. Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now. I am my word. I believe in myself. I believe in you.
Distinctions:
i. Integrity - Hat tipping the Source
ii. Shining the Light - on the coachee's positive qualities with belief in their undeniable greatness and acknowledging them for that to concretise and maximise their positive qualities to strengthen their Inner Light.
iii. Being a Nurturing Space - for them to experience their own greatness and access their own Power to Create™

5. Gear 5: Excellence: Spiritual Value - Love for self, Love for everyone and Love for everything: Consciousness - ​I love, accept and respect myself as I am right now. I love, accept and respect all beings as they are right now. I love, accept and respect Life itself as it is right now. I am Infinite Love. I am Infinite Joy. I am Infinite Equanimity. I am Infinite Loving Kindness. I am Infinite Abundance.
Distinctions:
i. See the Pain, Not Be the Pain
ii. Mind without Preference
iii. DLCM - Do Less to Create More Value. Coach using RYD framework (Leadership Depth Distinctions, Craft Mastery Contribution Indicators and Business Excellence franeworks) and link postwork to RYD Habits, RYD Transformative Practises and RYD Games.
iv. Going Deeper 
v. Completing the Loop - even if, over number of deep-dives