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What do I do if my Promise is no longer Valid?

26/5/2024

Integrity is about honouring our word which means - doing what I said I would do, by the time I said I would, in the way I meant to and if I miss to, I will restore my word.

Integrity is a Gear 4 spiritual value. We can only make a promise in Gear 4 and restore our word in Gear 4.

If we feel mad / bad / sad on breaking our word or when restoring it, we are in Gear 0. Therefore, it is important to consciously step up to Gear 4 to make a promise and consciously step up to Gear 4 to restore a promise and consciously step up to Gear 4 to release ourselves of a promise.

Gear 0 Default Consciousness sourced in Fear - I am feeling mad / bad / sad - low emotional state
Gear 1 Consciousness - I am extraordinary. I love myself.
Gear 2 Consciousness - You are extraordinary. I love you.
Gear 3 Consciousness - I trust the Universe. I trust the process of Life. I am a channel of impact. I am making a difference.
Gear 4 Consciousness - I am whole, complete and perfect. You are whole, complete and perfect. Life is whole, complete and perfect. I believe in myself. I believe in you.

Our resident Gear may be 1 but we can always consciously step up to Gear 4 in the moment to make a promise, restore a promise and release ourselves from a promise.

If it is difficult to step up to Gear 4 in the moment, then do your RYD Growth Habits to step up and then restore your word to give you power. Otherwise, restoring your word would take away your power.

When we break our word, no apologies are required. All that is required is restoring our word from Gear 4.

The question then could be, why is restoring our word a Gear 1 Habit?

It is a Gear 1 Habit to give us a gym to practise Agility of Mind to practise consciously stepping up to Gear 4 to make a promise, restore our promise or release ourselves from our promise.

What happens if we make a promise from Gear 0? - Then, our promise may harm us.

What happens if we make a promise from Gear 1? - Then, our promise may harm others and in turn, harm our own self, as it's in giving that we receive.

What happens if make a promise from Gear 2? - Then, the burden of honouring our promise is on us. We have not made the Universe our partner in honouring our word. It would be exhausting to honour our word. It's in a dance between me and the Universe that there is ease and grace. If I have to fulfil all my intentions only by myself, then that would be burdensome and back-breaking.

What happens if we make a promise from Gear 3? - We miss to get willing partnership from others to support us to fulfil our promise. A promise is nothing but an intention. We cannot fulfil any intention on our own. It is only in a joyous partnership with the Universe and others around us can our intention and our promises be fulfilled with ease and grace.

A question could be - How can I relate to people as extraordinary as I only have negative people around me? Well, our job is to focus on the tiny speck of goodness in them or move away from them till we have the strength to focus on the tiny speck of goodness in them and respond to that with positive energy.

There are no straight, factory-fitted answers to every situation. Best would be to explore with your coach in your weekly deep-dive immersion to discover your Truth and the way forward on your Good to Great journey.

Keep playing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.

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What is Enneagram?

23/5/2024

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I met my Enneagram mentor, Clarence Thomson, after 1.5 years. He is still young and handsome at 88 years. I reached out to him because I am now ready to integrate Enneagram with RYD. I had reached Stage 2 (Active Learning) of Craft Mastery in Enneagram before I took a break from it as I got busy with learning Psychodrama and Yoga where I am currently at Stage 3 of Craft Mastery (Apprenticeship with a Master of the Craft to become an Expert).

In Stage 4 of Craft Mastery, we become a Mentor by learning through teaching and coaching Experts on our craft.

In Stage 5 of Craft Mastery, we become a Master of our Craft by learning through teaching and coaching Mentors of our craft.

Only at Stage 3 of Craft Mastery of a particular modality / field can I begin the work of integrating that modality with RYD. The first stage of integration is when I can offer that learning to contribute to my coachees. The next stage of integration with RYD is when I coach the RYD Coaches on that modality and they reach the level of expertise to contribute to their coachees through that modality, which is when that modality becomes available to the entire RYD Circle of Love.

Psychodrama and Scaling-up have got integrated with Centre for Coaching Excellence (CCE), the school for RYD Coaches. In the next one year, Yoga of the Krishnamacharya tradition will get integrated with CCE. Psychodrama becomes relevant for a coachee when they climb to Gear 2 consciousness of their Leadership Depth Journey. Scaling-up as a framework becomes relevant when our coachee's business has reached Mountain 3 on their Business Excellence journey. Yoga is an RYD Transformative Practise in Gear 3 of the Leadership Depth journey.

Each modality is interesting and provides massive growth but when you integrate Coaching, Growth Habits, Community, Enneagram, Psychodrama, Yoga, Aana Pana, Vipassana; the inner journey from good to great (Leadership Depth) gets accelerated with greater ease and grace as there's simultaneous growth across all our 5 bodies - physical, energy, emotional, mental and spiritual - one Gear at a time.

Similarly in Business Excellence, there are different frameworks. But, magic happens when we integrate different frameworks because a beautiful Simplicity of a Whole emerges which is more powerful and effective than the individual frameworks.

Back to Enneagram - What is it?

To grow as a leader requires us to be deeply self-aware and have a structure to keep seeing one's own blind spots. Growth can come no other way. Strengthening our Leadership Depth is a result of ongoingly deepening our self-awareness and uncovering our Blind Spots.

Understanding our Enneagram (pronounced as ANY-a-gram) Style helps us to catch our default limiting habits and responses, which have made us captive to our worldview. It is like literally being caught up in a box. Both professional and personal growth requires us to break free from this box.

The Enneagram is a study of the 9 basic types of people and explains why we behave the way we do and points to specific directions for individual growth. It is an important tool to understand ourselves and people around us better; which is our pathway to greater business success, happy healthy kids, and loving harmonious positive uplifting relationships at work and at home.

Clarence is Enneagram Style 7, which is my Style as well. So, his idea of teaching is rather different. My first homework is to watch the Disney movie - Alladin, because both Alladin and the Genie are Style 7. This is going to be one fun learning expedition. Through the process of learning, I am looking forward to recovering the fun part of me, which got lost along the way.

Enneagram has roots in Sufism.

Research in the American Journal of Psychiatry describes the Enneagram as a personality theory that characterizes nine distinct strategies by which the human psyche develops a worldview, and relates to the self and others. The theory proposes that by adulthood, individuals have developed a predominant personality strategy to cope with the external environment. Each of the nine core types described by the Enneagram has an associated basic fear, basic desire, and predictable pattern of behaviour in times of stress and security. The Enneagram uses these basic fears and desires to describe the essential motivations underlying much of the resulting behaviour. It thus captures a range of behaviour for each type and is capable of providing a great deal of insight into an individual's underlying psychology for greater awareness and growth.

Enneagram is focused on internal motivations rather than external behaviours. It helps us uncover our blind spots, our behavioural patterns that everyone else can see except our own self, and provide a pathway to break those patterns.

Personality is not something we have to accept as something fixed in us. It is a box that we have trapped ourselves in to protect ourselves. We built this box to protect ourselves in response to hurts in our growing years. Our personality is our self-defense mechanism that we have strengthened over the years to protect ourselves from our fears.

In our RYD Language:
Hole-in-the-Soul in the spiritual body leads to small mind in the Mental Body, which leads to limiting roles in the Emotional Body, which leads to low energy in the Energy Body; which leads to a certain Personality expressed through the Physical Body.

The below is the limiting expression of my Default Survival Consciousness sourced in Fear.

Having this depth of understanding provides us with a pathway to dissolve our fears in our conscious mind, sub-conscious mind and unconscious mind through RYD Growth Habits, RYD Transformative Practises and the various modalities integrated with RYD. This supports us to break free from the grip of the darkness of our fears; enabling us to journey towards Joyous Freedom of our Authentic Self, our undeniable greatness, our Inner Light, to make a massive positive impact through the spiritual playground of our business and through freeing our family of limiting patterns to support our children to realize their highest potential with ease and grace.

Within RYD, we have the methodologies to dissolve expressions of fear from hole-in-the-soul in the spiritual body, small mind in the mental body, limiting roles in the emotional body and low energy state in the energy body. Enneagram helps to extend the RYD understanding to the physical body in terms of our default limiting behavioural patterns and strengths we have developed to deal with our fears, which together form our Personality. With greater awareness of our default limiting behavioural patterns and compensating strengths which also limit us since these strengths have been developed in response to fear, we can work on breaking free from our default fear-sourced behavioural patterns to give us greater access to our Power to Create Reality in alignment with our intentions and dreams.

With full understanding of how our Survival Consciousness, our default fears, show up in all our 5 bodies, our awareness about our own self expands supporting us to dissolve our fears and associated limiting patterns to realize our highest potential and make a massive positive impact by courageously living our Purpose through our work with greater ease, grace and velocity.

Here's the limitless expression of my Authentic Self. I am on a journey towards this limitless expression.

Our Whole Soul sourced in Love, the highest Spiritual Value, leads to limitless thoughts in our Mental Body (Big Mind), which leads to Peaceful Warrior roles in our Emotional Body. The Peaceful Warrior roles generate high uplifting, positive, creative energy in our Energy Body supporting us to live our Growth Habits through our Physical Body with joyous ease and grace.

Simultaneously working to transform all our 5 bodies supports us to move forward on our journey of good to great with greater ease, grace and velocity.

Greater understanding and awareness of our coachee through different lens would help us build a personalised journey for each one of our coachees to inculcate RYD Growth Habits and Rhythms from the entire RYD Habits Toolkit in a way that would most contribute to them.

In July 2024, Clarence will help each one in RYD Circle of Love to understand their Enneagram Style to have a deeper understanding about themselves. That would support our community's collective consciousness to grow and expand. Here are 2 easy-to-read books recommended by Clarence to wrap your head around Enneagram:

The Enneagram Made Easy: Discover the 9 Types of People
and
Are You My Type, Am I Yours? - Relationships Made Easy Through the Enneagram

Both books are by Reene Baron and Elizabeth Wagle

Here's an article that takes you one step deeper into what is Enneagram and the 9 different Styles - Understanding the Enneagram

Let's keep learning, uncovering and discovering to be more self-aware supporting us to raise our consciousness to joyously lead ourselves and our businesses from good to great, realize our dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.

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Why WHY is Important?

16/5/2024

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In the early years of building my business, I had hired a super intelligent marketing consultant who had been a Chief Marketing Officer of leading brands of the country.

He told me Have It All and Realize Your Dreams as an offering won’t work, that it is too idealistic, that it is not a believable promise, that it will impact my credibility if I even talk about it.

Indra Nooyi’s interview went viral where she declared that women cannot have it all and invited women to accept that reality. That was around the same time when I was offering Have It All as a way of life to women through Mums At Work™, my first business, now a channel of impact of Realize Your Dreams Gym for Business, Leadership and Life Mastery™.

I believe growth gets accelerated when you have mentors holding the mirror for you. So, I had a Board of Advisors as soon as I started my entrepreneurial journey in 2010, after hanging up my corporate boots at American Express. Blossom Kochhar, India's leading woman entrepreneur from the times when entrepreneurship was not as yet fashionable, American Express' India Head and Genpact's global HR Head were part of the Board.

I wanted to have it all. I was a guilty young mother who quit her cushy senior executive corporate job because fear of not being loved by her kids was way bigger than the security of a fixed salary at the end of the month.

The way to solve for having it all for me was by giving it to others. I wanted to solve for and make available Having It All for women, the first community that I was inspired to work with. That Why for my business connected deeply with me because that’s what I most wanted for myself.

I intuitively knew my How – Agility of Mind, Being of Service, Communicating Powerfully in the World of Others, Delivering on my Word, Excellence.

But, the Board wasn’t interested in my Why and How. They only wanted to know my What and I didn’t have clarity on that. I iterated business model after business model from providing groceries and vegetables to women at corporates, hobby creative classes at their workplace, inspirational talks, networking events, part-time jobs, theme clubs, gender diversity programs for corporates, success coaching.

Finally, RYD was born 3 years later in 2013 after breaking 10 business models as an Integrated Entrepreneurship Program bringing together business coaching and success coaching. RYD continued to iterate from there, year on year, to what it has now become.

My first Chief Operating Officer in those early years, a senior leader from a global technology company, with vast amounts of operational experience, got my Why but didn’t connect with my How. She connected deeply with Having It All for herself as she was my coachee before she became my COO but questioned about coaching others on Having It All when she said she didn’t Have It All herself.

For me, Having It All is a journey and as I am being of service by supporting others to Have It All by connecting them to their Power to Create and doing much more of what I am coaching others to do, more of it will keep getting created for me as it’s in giving that we receive and it’s in doing before telling others to do.

I moved ahead with my Why, How and newly discovered What; leaving behind my partners on my initial journey – the senior marketing consultant, the board members, my COO, and other employees who had joined because I gave them a salary. We parted ways along the journey because I had not as yet understood the importance of partnering with only those people who were inspired by my Why, How, What in that order – team members, business partners, advisors and even coachees.

A solopreneur again after having failed to scale my first business. I took away valuable learnings from my initial experience. In retrospect, I didn’t have the Leadership Depth to scale my business at that time. I wasn’t able to bring people together to fulfil on a missing need in the world that spoke to my heart and soul. I didn’t have an understanding of the depth of craft mastery to make having it all available to people.

I used the playground of Business Excellence to learn and grow in Craft Mastery, and the playground of Life to learn and grow in Leadership Depth.

In response to the Board’s continued input every meeting before I formally dissolved the Board that I was a bottleneck of my own business, I birthed Centre for Coaching Excellence to coach, develop and train RYD Coaches for the business to continue creating massive positive impact long after I am gone, and even more so.

My COO introduced me to Vipassana. My marketing consultant taught me how to build my own website, which I am still running on my own. My earlier employees taught me to hire for Why and How, and to relate to my people as my coachees. Therefore, our coachees are RYD Heart (RYD Circle of Love), RYD coaches are RYD Soul and RYD Staff are The Source of RYD. Yet, there was a time when I cared more about my coachees than about my own people.

I learnt a lot more from my partners of my initial journey, but the above was their most significant contribution to me.

Yet,

If I had listened to the senior marketing consultant, I would now be a business coach like millions of others with my mind coaching the mind of my coachees; unable to support them to realize their highest potential, make massive positive impact and have it all.

If I had listened to the Board, I would now be offering part-time jobs to women with them still struggling as helpless victims under the burden of their triple responsibilities – kids, work and home.

If I had listened to my earlier employees, I would now be running Events for women with them feeling happy and grateful in the events, but go back to their normal lives with no experience of their greatness outside the events.

If I had listened to my earlier coachees, I would now be running clubs for professional women to be members of, experiencing a safe supportive space; but not inspired to realize their highest potential.

If I had listened to my husband, I would have become a soft-skills corporate trainer.

If I had listened to my Dad, I would have never quit my high paying job at Amex.

If I had listened to the breakdowns in my Life, I would have surely re-joined the corporate world.

Instead, I chose to stay true to my Truth, however laughable that idea was; walked alone for a large part of my journey; invested massively in craft mastery to answer the question ‘How to Have It All?’ from multiple points on the Ball of Perspective to contribute to my coachees; instead of spending that time and money in marketing myself and networking.

Today, Realize Your Dreams (RYD) is our community, Have It All is our Purpose and Good to Great is the journey we are all on with each one of these three as our brand promises and the jobs-to-be-done. Our next Hero’s journey is to nurture 60 Indian businesses to be Fortune Global 100, 300 Indian businesses to be Fortune Global 500 and 1000 Indian businesses to be Forbes Global 2000. This is a laughable idea just as Have It All and Realize Your Dreams was 14 years ago. I grew massively and experienced massive joyous fulfilment along the journey to make the laughable real that I am looking forward to the next leg of my journey to make the next laughable idea real.

I would have surely made money through the various other options that I was advised on – continue working with Amex, business coach focussed only on business, part-time jobs, events, clubs for professional women, soft-skills corporate trainer, re-joining the corporate world.

But, I would have left a lot of impact on the table because Massive Impact is an outcome of being true to your Why. I can’t claim to have made massive impact, yet what I have created so far is much more massive than I would have with any of the various options I was advised to take on.

Since Money is a perfect expression of our creativity and the difference we are making, the revenue of our business is a measure of our impact. Building your business on only a financial model will leave a lot of impact, and therefore, lot of money on the table.

Your Why and How is the oxygen of your business. You can be happy with the success you are creating and yet, you can create super success along with transforming the world, and yourself as an outcome of that. Then, why not choose that?

Let’s correlate Why, How and What concept with the ideas of different Thought Leaders to explore different points on the Ball of Perspective, each equally true and powerful, for greater clarity, understanding and ease of implementation in our own lives, personally and professionally. It’s only in implementing the learnings and insights that the learnings and insights have any meaning and value.

1. Simon Sinek
Live and communicate from Inside-Out to inspire action from your people and your customers, and create Greatness.

The below is Simon Sinek's Golden Circle:

i. Your WHY is your purpose, cause, or belief. WHY does your company exist? WHY do you get out of bed every morning? And WHY should anyone care about the work you do?

ii. Our HOWs are the actions we take when we are at our natural best and are living out our WHY. It’s HOW you bring your WHY to life that makes you and your company unique. As a result, the combination of your WHY and HOWs is like your organization’s fingerprint.

iii. Every single company and organization on the planet knows WHAT they do. This is true no matter how big or small, and no matter what industry. Everyone is easily able to describe the products or services a company provides or the job function they have within that system. WHATs are easy to identify and important to have, but are less impactful than the WHY.

Here's an article by Simon Sinek on the Golden Circle - The Golden Circle

The inspired leaders—every single one of them, regardless of their industry—think, act, and communicate from the inside out.

People don’t buy WHAT you do, they buy WHY you do it.

Here's a TED Talk by Simon Sinek on How Great Leaders Inspire Action:

For RYD,
i. Why – Our Purpose is to support people to Have It All, and be happy, healthy and prosperous.
ii. How – Agility of Mind, Being of Service, Communicating Powerfully in the World of Others, Delivering on your Word, Excellence. These are RYD Core Values. These are also Leadership Depth Gears to raise human consciousness, one step at a time from Gear 1 to Gear 5 = Leadership Depth
iii. What – Transformation Ecosystem for Businesses - Coaching leaders to joyously lead themselves and their business from good to great, realize their dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way = RYD Good to Great Journey integrating 3 Growth Levers (Leadership Depth, Craft Mastery, Business Excellence) to support people to Have It All, one organization at a time

2. Scaling-up’s Vision Summary Tool
i. Why: Purpose of your Organization.
Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG) is a Milestone on the way to fulfil on your Purpose.
ii. How: Your organization’s Core Values
iii. What: Brand Promises, the Job-to-be-Done

For RYD,
i. Why: Purpose of your Organization.
Big Hairy Audacious Goal (BHAG) is a Milestone on the way to fulfil on your Purpose.

Purpose: Our Purpose is to support people to Have It All, and be happy, healthy and prosperous.

BHAG: RYD India 2047 - Our BHAG is to be the world’s best Transformation Ecosystem nurturing 60 Indian Businesses to be Fortune Global 100, 300 Indian Businesses to be Fortune Global 500 and 1000 Indian Businesses to be Forbes Global 2000 as Businesses we coach become Spaces of Grace for people to joyously lead themselves and their work from good to great, realize their dreams and have it all; supporting India to be the world's most developed, beautiful, greenest nation with her citizens happiest, healthiest and the most prosperous; creating a Brave New World.

Supporting people to Have It All, one organization at a time.

ii. How: Your organization’s Core Values
Agility of Mind, Being of Service, Communicating Powerfully in the World of Others, Delivering on your Word, Excellence

iii. What: Brand Promises = The Job to be Done
a. Joyously Lead your Business from good to great to create a massive positive impact in the world
b. Effortlessly Realize Your Dreams
c. Have it All with ease and grace, while having lots of fun and adventure along the way

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3. Jim Collins’ The Hedgehog Concept
i. What you are deeply passionate about? = Why
ii. What you can be the best in the world at? = How
iii. What drives your economic engine? What will people pay you money for? = What

For RYD,
i. Why: What you are deeply passionate about? – Raising People’s Consciousness to Have It All = Leadership Depth
ii. How: What you can be the best in the world at? – Realize Your Dreams (RYD) Coaches = Craft Mastery
iii. What: What drives your economic engine? What will people pay you money for? – Business Growth, Coach businesses from Good to Great - Profit per X is Profit per Business = Business Excellence

Bringing it all together: Coaching Leaders to lead themselves and their business from Good to Great, Realize their Dreams and Have It All with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way.

4. Ikigai

i. What you Love? = Why = If you stay True to your Truth, your Why, in the face of all breakdowns, you grow in Leadership Depth.
ii. What you are Good at? = How = This becomes your Craft Mastery. Play to be the world’s best in this.
iii. What you can be Paid For? = What people want = Give to People what they need through what they want = Business Excellence
iv. What the world Needs? = What people need = You bring together the above three to fulfil on this missing need through your work and your life.

For j,
i. What you Love? = If you stay True to your Truth, your Why, in the face of all breakdowns, you grow in Leadership Depth = Having people experience their own greatness = Why
ii. What you are Good at? = Coaching = Craft Mastery = Play to be the world’s best in this = How
iii. What you can be Paid For? = Coach leaders to lead their businesses from Good to Great = Business Excellence = What
iv. What the world Needs? = Have It All = Outcome to be delivered, missing need to be fulfilled by bringing together the above 3. Coaching Leaders to lead themselves and their business from Good to Great, Realize their Dreams and Have It All with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way.

5. RYD
i. How to Realize Your Dreams?
a. Why: Your Purpose
b. How: Your Spiritual Values which fill the Hole in your Soul, Your Big Mind, Your Peaceful Warrior Roles
c. What: Your Dream.

ii. How to Fulfil Your Intentions?
a. Why: Your Intention.
b. How: How will you know you have fulfilled your Intention? These are your measurable Outcome Goals for the Intention, forming the first level of structure of success.
c. What: What do you need to do to achieve the Outcome Goals? These are your measurable Input Actions or Process Goals, which form the second level of structure of success.

iii. RYD Circles of Transformation
a. Why: The Source of RYD – Circle of RYD Staff
b. How: The Soul of RYD – Circle of RYD Coaches
c. What: The Mind of RYD – Circle of RYD Playbooks
d. First Level of Impact: The Heart of RYD – RYD Circle of Love – RYD Coachees
e. Second Level of Impact: The Energy of RYD – Circle of RYD Graduates
f. Third Level of Impact: The Body of RYD – Circle of RYD People – All people in the lives of all RYDians (Staff, Coaches, Coachees, Graduates) - their family members and all people whose lives they touch in their organization and other communities that they are a part of

Keep playing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.

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Communication is Non-Verbal

9/5/2024

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93% of the communication is non-verbal through facial expressions, tone, accents on certain words etc. and yet all these non-verbal expressions are the outcome of something deeper within.

Our thoughts in our mental body lead to emotions in our emotional body, which lead to energy state in our energy body, which lead to facial expressions, tone, accents on certain words and body language in the physical body.

At the very source of our thoughts in our mental body is who we are BEING in our Spiritual Body - Hole in the Soul or Whole Soul, Darkness or Light, Fear or Love.

It all boils down to:

Am I being my Hole in the Soul, my Default Survival Consciousness?
i. I am not good enough
or
ii. I am not important
or
iii. I am all alone. No one loves me.

Or;

Am I being my Whole Soul - my undeniable Inner Light dissolving the Darkness of the Hole in the Soul in me?

I am Massive Impact is the Truth hidden by I am not good enough.

I am a Master Contributor is the Truth hidden by I am not important,

I am Infinite Love which is the Truth hidden by I am all alone. No one loves me.

We first accept the Truth intellectually, then experience the Truth intellectually at the level of the mind, then experience the Truth emotionally at the level of the heart and finally, experience the Truth spiritually at the level of the deepest Inner Knowing.

Leadership Depth is the journey within to dissolve the limiting habits of physical body, energy body, emotional body, mental body and the spiritual body through RYD Transformative Practises, also known as RYD Growth Habits, to realize our Highest Potential by dissolving the darkness of the evolutionary fears within to reach the treasure of our undeniable greatness, our Inner Light.

Leadership Depth journey in itself is a steep climb up but if played out on the playground of Business Excellence using Craft Mastery as another Growth Lever to grow both on the inside and in the world outside to make a massive difference, realizing our highest potential becomes a fun game supporting us to realize our impossible, unimaginable, crazy dreams and have it all with ease and grace.

We can focus on band-aiding by trying to change our body language or developing an executive presence or building a personal brand working hard to create success at the cost of everything else to fill the hole in our soul;
or
we can go to the very soul of the matter and transform who we are as a human-being to realize our highest potential and make a massive impact by living our Purpose this Lifetime through our work and have it all with ease and grace.

Gear 3 Leadership Muscle is Communicating Powerfully in the World of Others. We reach here by relating to our own self as extraordinary in Gear 1 (Agility of Mind leadership muscle) by dissolving limiting beliefs about our own self and relating to others as extraordinary in Gear 2 (Being of Service leadership muscle) by dissolving limiting beliefs about others. In Gear 3, others relate to us as extraordinary by us dissolving limiting beliefs about life itself.

In Gear 3, we are sourced in vulnerable authenticity, humility, childlike trust and faith. We become an Empty Space for people to discover who they are. That's when we dance in conversation with people in our space, with words and without words, deeply understanding and being deeply understood.

Keep learning, reflecting and growing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.

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How Can we Stay More in the Moment?

9/5/2024

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Pratik, Thank you for your One Question:
How can we stay more in the moment to be aware of our thoughts, feelings, etc which can allow us to operate from a higher gear?

Before we can play any sport well, 3 things are required to be brought together:
1) Learning the right technique of playing the sport from a coach
2) Practising the right technique on the training ground
3) Playing on the playground which tells us how much we have progressed in learning the technique as measured by the ease and grace of our play and number of wins

Consciousness is defined as Awareness of our thoughts in our mental body, feelings in our emotional body, sensations in our physical body, quality of energy in our energy body and love or fear in our spiritual body.

When I put my hand in the fire, if I have no sensation of my hand burning, I will not pull away my hand and my hand will keep burning. It's only because I have awareness of the sensation of burning that I respond by pulling away my hand from the fire.

If we have awareness of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, energy level and being (love or fear), we will never think thoughts, speak words and take actions that harm us or harm other people. When we harm other people, we are harming our own self because it's in giving that we receive. If we have awareness of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, energy level and being (love or fear), we would think thoughts, speak words and take actions that massively contribute to our own self and massively contribute to all beings in our space.

Therefore, Leadership Development is about raising our Human Consciousness. A great leader has a much higher Consciousness than a good leader. A good leader has a much higher consciousness than a bad leader. That is why Bapu Gandhi was a great leader and Hitler was a bad leader.

The RYD Growth Lever - Leadership Depth - is about raising our consciousness from the darkness of unconsciousness in Gear 0 to our Inner Light of full consciousness in Gear 5. RYD Transformative Practises, also known as RYD Growth Habits in each Gear support us to raise our consciousness one Gear at a time from Gear 0 all the way to Gear 5.

Greater our consciousness, greater our awareness of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, energy and being (love or fear).

Like in sports, it is not enough to learn the technique of the RYD Growth Habit. It is not even enough to learn the technique and daily practise the RYD Growth Habit. All 3 things are required to be done for raising our consciousness to be aware, moment to moment, of our sensations, energy, feelings, thoughts, being (fear or love) to be a great leader creating massive positive impact and have it all:
1) Learning the right technique
2) Practising the right technique on the training ground during daily Morning and Evening Holy Hour
3) Playing on the playground which tells us how much we have progressed in learning the technique as measured by the ease and grace of our play and number of wins - Which means bringing the RYD Growth habits into our everyday life, at work and at home. It's not enough to do gratitudes and acknowledgements morning and evening. Are we playing to be in appreciative acknowledgment of our own self and be grateful for all that we have, moment to moment, as we are playing the game of life? It's not enough to meditate in the morning and evening. Are we practising observing our breath and sensations through the day? It's not enough to do 1 hour of physical fitness daily. Are we standing and sitting with the right posture, moment to moment? Are we sleeping adequate number of hours to be fully rested?

Trust this long answer to your short question served you in some way, Pratik 💜

Keep learning, practising and playing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; experiencing beauty, balance and harmony within and all around; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way.

Loving you,
j.

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The Vast Sky

6/5/2024

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Let me tell you a story. The name of the story is - The Vast Sky

There are 4 characters in this movie - Little Me, Critical Ogre, Hardworking Rescuer, Bored Avoider.

Little me was happy once upon a time and loved flying high in the vast sky of her limitless possibilities.

Unknowingly and because they didn't know any better, adults around her squeezed her happiness out of her by being critical of her instead of nurturing and loving her unconditionally; which is what Little Me needed to grow up to be a Happy, Genius Me.

When the happiness was squeezed out of her, a Critical Ogre got birthed who constantly made Little Me small that Little Me forgot that - 'She is whole, complete and perfect as she is right now. People are whole, complete and perfect as they are right now. Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now.'

The Hardworking Rescuer got birthed to protect the Little Me from the Critical Ogre and worked incredibly hard to please the Critical Ogre but the Critical Ogre was never pleased and always found more reasons to find fault with the Little Me who became smaller and smaller and smaller; completely forgetting that she is extraordinary as she is. Habits, Success, Impact, Wealth, Relationships don't make her extraordinary. She makes Habits, Success, Impact, Wealth, Relationships extraordinary.

Bored Avoider was then birthed. Anytime, Little Me saw a little bit light of her Inner Light in her dark tunnel and made an attempt to live as an expression of her undeniable Greatness, the Bored Avoider would show up and snuff out any idea of doing anything that would take the Little Me closer to her Inner Light, her highest potential.

The Bored Avoider is pretty sneaky. She had tons of things to tell the Little Me to stop her from climbing to the top of her Mount Everest - 'All this is boring. This is not possible. This is not logical. This is not practical. We have other important things to do. This is not exciting enough to do. This doesn't resonate. Show me evidence before I will believe. How can I believe? This doesn't fill me up with passion. This is not fun. This doesn't connect with our Purpose. I don't agree with this. This is not what we want. I know better than anyone else around us. Learning is boring because it is of no use. Learning is useless because I know better. What's the point? Life is meaningless.'

In order to stop the Little Me from taking effective action to become the Big Me; the Bored Avoider, the Critical Ogre, the Hardworking Rescuer would tell all kind of lies to the Little Me which the innocent Little Me believed in, forever trapping the Inner Light inside of her which wanted to find a way out to fly high to the Vast Sky to make the Little Me's world a better, brighter, happier place.

One day, a Peaceful Warrior came riding on her horse because the Little Me had an intense burning desire to fly high in the Vast Sky of her limitless possibilities. The Peaceful Warrior was funny because she didn't battle the enemies. She simply embraced them with so much love that the Bored Avoider, the Critical Ogre and the Hardworking Rescuer simply dissolved leaving the space for the Little Me to become Happy Big Me; unlearning, relearning and courageously taking powerful, effective actions in alignment with her impossible, unimaginable dreams to step out from the darkness of mediocrity to the light of greatness by being of service to people around her with so much love and passion through her work which maximised her growth, her potential ongoingly for her to have it all and be massive positive impact; making her feel deeply grateful, joyously fulfilled and divinely blessed, moment to moment.

Loving you,
j.

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