​Integrity is about honouring our word which means - doing what I said I would do, by the time I said I would, in the way I meant to and if I miss to, I will restore my word.

Integrity is a Gear 4 spiritual value. We can only make a promise in Gear 4 and restore our word in Gear 4.

If we feel mad / bad / sad on breaking our word or when restoring it, we are in Gear 0. Therefore, it is important to consciously step up to Gear 4 to make a promise and consciously step up to Gear 4 to restore a promise and consciously step up to Gear 4 to release ourselves of a promise.

Gear 0 Default Consciousness sourced in Fear - I am feeling mad / bad / sad - low emotional state
Gear 1 Consciousness - I am extraordinary. I love myself.
Gear 2 Consciousness - You are extraordinary. I love you.
Gear 3 Consciousness - I trust the Universe. I trust the process of Life. I am a channel of impact. I am making a difference.
Gear 4 Consciousness - I am whole, complete and perfect. You are whole, complete and perfect. Life is whole, complete and perfect. I believe in myself. I believe in you.

Our resident Gear may be 1 but we can always consciously step up to Gear 4 in the moment to make a promise, restore a promise and release ourselves from a promise.

If it is difficult to step up to Gear 4 in the moment, then do your RYD Growth Habits to step up and then restore your word to give you power. Otherwise, restoring your word would take away your power.

When we break our word, no apologies are required. All that is required is restoring our word from Gear 4.

The question then could be, why is restoring our word a Gear 1 Habit?

It is a Gear 1 Habit to give us a gym to practise Agility of Mind to practise consciously stepping up to Gear 4 to make a promise, restore our promise or release ourselves from our promise.

What happens if we make a promise from Gear 0? - Then, our promise may harm us.

What happens if we make a promise from Gear 1? - Then, our promise may harm others and in turn, harm our own self, as it's in giving that we receive.

What happens if make a promise from Gear 2? - Then, the burden of honouring our promise is on us. We have not made the Universe our partner in honouring our word. It would be exhausting to honour our word. It's in a dance between me and the Universe that there is ease and grace. If I have to fulfil all my intentions only by myself, then that would be burdensome and back-breaking.

What happens if we make a promise from Gear 3? - We miss to get willing partnership from others to support us to fulfil our promise. A promise is nothing but an intention. We cannot fulfil any intention on our own. It is only in a joyous partnership with the Universe and others around us can our intention and our promises be fulfilled with ease and grace.

A question could be - How can I relate to people as extraordinary as I only have negative people around me? Well, our job is to focus on the tiny speck of goodness in them or move away from them till we have the strength to focus on the tiny speck of goodness in them and respond to that with positive energy. 

There are no straight, factory-fitted answers to every situation. Best would be to explore with your coach in your weekly deep-dive immersion to discover your Truth and the way forward on your Good to Great journey.

Keep playing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.

 
I met my Enneagram mentor, Clarence Thomson, after 1.5 years. He is still young and handsome at 88 years. I reached out to him because I am now ready to integrate Enneagram with RYD. I had reached Stage 2 (Active Learning) of Craft Mastery in Enneagram before I took a break from it as I got busy with learning Psychodrama and Yoga where I am currently at Stage 3 of Craft Mastery (Apprenticeship with a Master of the Craft to become an Expert).

In Stage 4 of Craft Mastery, we become a Mentor by learning through teaching and coaching Experts on our craft.

In Stage 5 of Craft Mastery, we become a Master of our Craft by learning through teaching and coaching Mentors of our craft.

Only at Stage 3 of Craft Mastery of a particular modality / field can I begin the work of integrating that modality with RYD. The first stage of integration is when I can offer that learning to contribute to my coachees. The next stage of integration with RYD is when I coach the RYD Coaches on that modality and they reach the level of expertise to contribute to their coachees through that modality, which is when that modality becomes available to the entire RYD Circle of Love.

Psychodrama and Scaling-up have got integrated with Centre for Coaching Excellence (CCE), the school for RYD Coaches. In the next one year, Yoga of the Krishnamacharya tradition will get integrated with CCE. Psychodrama becomes relevant for a coachee when they climb to Gear 2 consciousness of their Leadership Depth Journey. Scaling-up as a framework becomes relevant when our coachee's business has reached Mountain 3 on their Business Excellence journey. Yoga is an RYD Transformative Practise in Gear 3 of the Leadership Depth journey.

Each modality is interesting and provides massive growth but when you integrate Coaching, Growth Habits, Community, Enneagram, Psychodrama, Yoga, Aana Pana, Vipassana; the inner journey from good to great (Leadership Depth) gets accelerated with greater ease and grace as there's simultaneous growth across all our 5 bodies - physical, energy, emotional, mental and spiritual - one Gear at a time.

Similarly in Business Excellence, there are different frameworks. But, magic happens when we integrate different frameworks because a beautiful Simplicity of a Whole emerges which is more powerful and effective than the individual frameworks.

Back to Enneagram - What is it?

To grow as a leader requires us to be deeply self-aware and have a structure to keep seeing one's own blind spots. Growth can come no other way. Strengthening our Leadership Depth is a result of ongoingly deepening our self-awareness and uncovering our Blind Spots.

Understanding our Enneagram (pronounced as ANY-a-gram) Style helps us to catch our default limiting habits and responses, which have made us captive to our worldview. It is like literally being caught up in a box. Both professional and personal growth requires us to break free from this box.

The Enneagram is a study of the 9 basic types of people and explains why we behave the way we do and points to specific directions for individual growth. It is an important tool to understand ourselves and people around us better; which is our pathway to greater business success, happy healthy kids, and loving harmonious positive uplifting relationships at work and at home.

​Clarence is Enneagram Style 7, which is my Style as well. So, his idea of teaching is rather different. My first homework is to watch the Disney movie - Alladin, because both Alladin and the Genie are Style 7. This is going to be one fun learning expedition. Through the process of learning, I am looking forward to recovering the fun part of me, which got lost along the way.

Enneagram has roots in Sufism.

Research in the American Journal of Psychiatry describes the Enneagram as a personality theory that characterizes nine distinct strategies by which the human psyche develops a worldview, and relates to the self and others. The theory proposes that by adulthood, individuals have developed a predominant personality strategy to cope with the external environment. Each of the nine core types described by the Enneagram has an associated basic fear, basic desire, and predictable pattern of behaviour in times of stress and security. The Enneagram uses these basic fears and desires to describe the essential motivations underlying much of the resulting behaviour. It thus captures a range of behaviour for each type and is capable of providing a great deal of insight into an individual's underlying psychology for greater awareness and growth. 

Enneagram is focused on internal motivations rather than external behaviours. It helps us uncover our blind spots, our behavioural patterns that everyone else can see except our own self, and provide a pathway to break those patterns. 

Personality is not something we have to accept as something fixed in us. It is a box that we have trapped ourselves in to protect ourselves. We built this box to protect ourselves in response to hurts in our growing years. Our personality is our self-defense mechanism that we have strengthened over the years to protect ourselves from our fears. 

In our RYD Language:
Hole-in-the-Soul in the spiritual body leads to small mind in the Mental Body, which leads to limiting roles in the Emotional Body, which leads to low energy in the Energy Body; which leads to a certain Personality expressed through the Physical Body. 

The below is the limiting expression of my Default Survival Consciousness sourced in Fear. 

Our Whole Soul sourced in Love, the highest Spiritual Value, leads to limitless thoughts in our Mental Body (Big Mind), which leads to Peaceful Warrior roles in our Emotional Body. The Peaceful Warrior roles generate high uplifting, positive, creative energy in our Energy Body supporting us to live our Growth Habits through our Physical Body with joyous ease and grace. 

Simultaneously working to transform all our 5 bodies supports us to move forward on our journey of good to great with greater ease, grace and velocity. 

Greater understanding and awareness of our coachee through different lens would help us build a personalised journey for each one of our coachees to inculcate RYD Growth Habits and Rhythms from the entire RYD Habits Toolkit in a way that would most contribute to them.

In July 2024, Clarence will help each one in RYD Circle of Love to understand their Enneagram Style to have a deeper understanding about themselves. That would support our community's collective consciousness to grow and expand. Here are 2 easy-to-read books recommended by Clarence to wrap your head around Enneagram:

The Enneagram Made Easy: Discover the 9 Types of People
and
Are You My Type, Am I Yours? - Relationships Made Easy Through the Enneagram

Both books are by Reene Baron and Elizabeth Wagle

Here's an article that takes you one step deeper into what is Enneagram and the 9 different Styles - Understanding the Enneagram

Let's keep learning, uncovering and discovering to be more self-aware supporting us to raise our consciousness to joyously lead ourselves and our businesses from good to great, realize our dreams and have it all with ease and grace; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
​j.

​Pratik, Thank you for your One Question:
How can we stay more in the moment to be aware of our thoughts, feelings, etc which can allow us to operate from a higher gear?

Before we can play any sport well, 3 things are required to be brought together:
1) Learning the right technique of playing the sport from a coach
2) Practising the right technique on the training ground
3) Playing on the playground which tells us how much we have progressed in learning the technique as measured by the ease and grace of our play and number of wins

Consciousness is defined as Awareness of our thoughts in our mental body, feelings in our emotional body, sensations in our physical body, quality of energy in our energy body and love or fear in our spiritual body.

When I put my hand in the fire, if I have no sensation of my hand burning, I will not pull away my hand and my hand will keep burning. It's only because I have awareness of the sensation of burning that I respond by pulling away my hand from the fire.

If we have awareness of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, energy level and being (love or fear), we will never think thoughts, speak words and take actions that harm us or harm other people. When we harm other people, we are harming our own self because it's in giving that we receive. If we have awareness of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, energy level and being (love or fear), we would think thoughts, speak words and take actions that massively contribute to our own self and massively contribute to all beings in our space.

Therefore, Leadership Development is about raising our Human Consciousness. A great leader has a much higher Consciousness than a good leader. A good leader has a much higher consciousness than a bad leader. That is why Bapu Gandhi was a great leader and Hitler was a bad leader.

The RYD Growth Lever - Leadership Depth - is about raising our consciousness from the darkness of unconsciousness in Gear 0 to our Inner Light of full consciousness in Gear 5. RYD Transformative Practises, also known as RYD Growth Habits in each Gear support us to raise our consciousness one Gear at a time from Gear 0 all the way to Gear 5.

Greater our consciousness, greater our awareness of our thoughts, feelings, sensations, energy and being (love or fear).

Like in sports, it is not enough to learn the technique of the RYD Growth Habit. It is not even enough to learn the technique and daily practise the RYD Growth Habit. All 3 things are required to be done for raising our consciousness to be aware, moment to moment, of our sensations, energy, feelings, thoughts, being (fear or love) to be a great leader creating massive positive impact and have it all:
1) Learning the right technique 
2) Practising the right technique on the training ground during daily Morning and Evening Holy Hour
3) Playing on the playground which tells us how much we have progressed in learning the technique as measured by the ease and grace of our play and number of wins - Which means bringing the RYD Growth habits into our everyday life, at work and at home. It's not enough to do gratitudes and acknowledgements morning and evening. Are we playing to be in appreciative acknowledgment of our own self and be grateful for all that we have, moment to moment, as we are playing the game of life? It's not enough to meditate in the morning and evening. Are we practising observing our breath and sensations through the day? It's not enough to do 1 hour of physical fitness daily. Are we standing and sitting with the right posture, moment to moment? Are we sleeping adequate number of hours to be fully rested?

Trust this long answer to your short question served you in some way, Pratik 💜

Keep learning, practising and playing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; experiencing beauty, balance and harmony within and all around; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way.

Loving you,
j.

​​I missed my Friday flight to Chennai. I believe the Universe is gifting me my highest good, moment to moment.

I wondered with curiosity as to what could be my highest good in missing my 10:45 am flight when I had an appointment with my Yoga Mentor’s teacher, Lakshmi ma’am, at 4:00 pm. 

In the next flight to Chennai, I realized why.

I had missed my flight inspite of sitting near the Security Gate for about an hour. I assumed I missed the announcement because I was deeply engrossed in writing an article.

The Indigo ground staff were kind and gracious to put me on the next flight at a nominal charge. 

I acknowledged my broken word to Vimla as I cancelled our in-cab conversation; and requested Saras to move forward my Yoga therapy session with her and Lakshmi ma’am by 30 minutes. 

The gentleman sitting by the window seat in my next flight, with an empty seat between us, shared that he leads a tech unit for Amazon based out of Atlanta, and that he wasn’t sure what he should do next, wasn’t sure what is his purpose, he wants to do something different but not sure what.

I smiled and told him - You made me miss my earlier flight. We had a 2 hours deep-dive conversation.

As we were landing, he said that only yesterday he and his wife were discussing how when one is ready, the right guidance shows up.

During the conversation, he also said that inspite of all the pollution and problems in India, he feels happy when he is in India.

I guess he got the guidance he was looking for. I, for sure, got my guidance. Here’s what I took away from our conversation:

1) RYD 2047 Dream - India is the world’s most developed, beautiful and greenest nation, with her citizens happiest, healthiest and the most prosperous - will be realized not only by Indians in India but also by Indians around the world.

2) The Universe is definitely gifting me my highest good, moment to moment, and to each one of us. We will receive the gift if we can go beyond fear and panic in the moment, and step into childlike trust and faith.

3) When there's childlike trust and faith in the process of life and in the Universe, the conscious mind will be at ease and will be able to see the specific 15 bits of information, from the 15 million bits floating around, that supports us to fulfil our intentions and realize our dreams with ease and grace.

4) All intentions and dreams of all people in the world fit together snugly like a jigsaw puzzle. Our intentions and dreams get fulfilled as intentions and dreams of people in our family, in our organizations, of people around us get fulfilled. It’s always AND, not one at the cost of another. This Abundance is the real truth. 

5) There comes a time when panic tries to rise but dissolves almost immediately because fear isn't strong enough, childlike trust and faith is stronger.

Here's a thesis based on my experience:

Childlike trust and faith is at 3 levels:
a) at the level of the mind, when we finally intellectually accept the concept 100% - Gear 1 of the Leadership Depth journey
b) at the level of the heart when we believe like a child - Gear 2 of the Leadership Depth journey
c) finally at the level of the soul, when we simply know - Gear 3 of the Leadership Depth journey

Mind can only take us to Gear 1. For Gear 2, the heart needs to be engaged.

For Gear 3, the soul needs to be engaged. You can only feel the distinction of Childlike Trust and Faith through practise.

The progression in raising our consciousness may be as follows. In order to make it easier, in RYD, we travel around the mountain to reach the summit instead of doing the straight steep climb-up. Therefore, we have 3 tracks of the Leadership Depth journey up to the summit of raising our consciousness to Gear 5 - starter journey from Gear 1 to Gear 5, champion journey from Gear 1 to Gear 5, and mastery journey from Gear 1 to Gear 5.

Gear 1: Agility of Mind: Keystone habit is Reflection to move the conscious mind from darkness to light. ​Gear 1 work is about dissolving the fears in the conscious mind.

Gear 1 habits across our 5 bodies are designed for that. The primary spiritual value in this gear is love for self.

The primary belief or distinct point on the Ball of Perspective which supports us to travel this Gear is: I am extraordinary and I love myself.

We achieve Personal Mastery at this stage. 

In order to Have It All, the work begins in the foundational area of our wheels of life:
Nurturing and Nourishing ourselves to the highest level of health, fitness and joyous well-being - physically, energetically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually

Gear 2: Being of Service: Primary work is Psychodrama and Journey Process to move the subconscious mind from the darkness of trauma memories to light of healing. ​Gear 2 work is about dissolving the fears in the sub-conscious mind.

Gear 2 habits across our 5 bodies aid this process. The primary spiritual value is gratitude. The primary beliefs or distinct points (distinctions) on the Ball of Perspective which support us to travel this Gear are:
i. You are extraordinary and I love you.
ii. It’s in giving that we receive.
iii. We are in a particular relationship because we are meant to contribute to the other in the relationship and grow as an outcome of that.
iv. We are born to a particular community because we are meant to make a difference to that community and grow as an outcome of that.
v. What we focus on grows. Therefore, we choose to be grateful for what good there is around us instead of feeling low for the 'not-good' around us.

We achieve Relationship Mastery at this stage.

In Having It All, the next 2 areas of our wheel of life strengthens in Gear 2 -
i. Loving, harmonious, positive, uplifting relationships at work and at home
ii. Happy, healthy, responsible kids with their genius joyfully expressed

Gear 3: Communicating powerfully in the world of Others: Key stone habit is Yoga and Pranayam to get the body ready for meditation. The work on the Unconscious Mind begins here.

The daily tapasya of Yoga and Pranayam along side practising swadhyaya (study of self and reflection) and Ishwar Pranidhan (childlike trust and faith) on the yoga mat has helped me to strengthen childlike trust and faith. 

Gear 3 habits across our 5 bodies support this process. The primary spiritual values are reverence, childlike trust and faith, authenticity, vulnerability, humility.

The primary beliefs or distinct points on the Ball of Perspective are:
i. I trust the Universe.
ii. I trust the process of Life.
iii. The Universe is gifting us our highest good, moment to moment.
iv. I am a channel of impact.
v. I am making a difference.

We achieve Business Mastery at this stage.

In Having It All, the next area of our wheel of life strengthens in Gear 3: 
Deeply fulfilling, successful, profitable business supporting us to live our purpose of life; gifting us with impact, contribution and financial freedom

Gear 4: Delivering on our Word: Keystone Habit is Aana Paana which supports us to master our conscious mind for us to use the power of the conscious mind to pierce through the unconscious mind to finally dissolve the darkness of fear at that level.

Gear 4 habits across our 5 bodies contribute towards this process. The primary spiritual value is integrity.

The primary beliefs or distinct points on the Ball of Perspective are:
i. I am whole, complete and perfect as I am right now.
ii. You are whole, complete and perfect as you are right now.
iii. Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now.
iv. I am my word. I believe in myself.
v. I believe in you.

We achieve Leadership Mastery at this stage.

In Having It All, the next area of our wheel of life strengthens in Gear 4: 
Making a massive difference through the work we do

Gear 5: Excellence: Keystone habit is Vipassana to finally move the unconscious mind from darkness to light, from fear to love. Gear 5 work is about dissolving fears in the unconscious mind.

Gear 5 habits across the 5 bodies support this process. The primary spiritual values are mastery and love.

The primary beliefs or distinct points on the Ball of Perspective are:
i. I love, accept and like myself as I am right now.
ii. I love, accept and like you as you are right now.
iii. I love, accept and like Life as it is right now.
iv. I am playing to win for the joy of playing to win.
v. I create for the joy of creation.

We achieve Life Mastery at this stage which is about Having It All:

i. Deeply fulfilling, successful, profitable business supporting us to live our purpose of life; gifting us with impact, contribution and financial freedom
AND
ii. Loving, harmonious, positive, uplifting relationships at work and at home
AND
iii. Happy, healthy, responsible kids with their genius joyfully expressed
AND
iv. Nourishing, nurturing yourself to the highest level of health, fitness and well-being (physically, emotionally, mentally, spiritually)
AND
v. Making a massive difference through the work you do

Not one at the cost of another but an abundance of Having It All 💜

Keep playing to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; experiencing beauty, balance and harmony within and all around while having lots of fun and adventure along the way.

Loving you,
j.

2 days before I am due to travel to Maldives and Spain for 15 days with one day hop back into the country in between the 2 trips, the oncologist tells me I have a 8.0 cm X 7.8 cm X 7.3 cm cancerous tumour in my stomach.

What a beautiful gift from the Universe to put into practise what I deeply believe in that we can self-heal ourselves in partnership with our Inner Wisdom by integrating nutrition, fasting, yoga, meditation, alternative medicinal systems like Ayurveda and Homeopathy, emotional healing, using the power of the mind and being our spiritual values.

Another opportunity to learn, contribute and grow; another journey to uncover what's hidden within, heal and make a difference; another playground to practise being my spiritual values - love, gratitude, reverence, integrity, mastery, joy, abundance, humility, vulnerability, authenticity, loving kindness, equanimity, childlike trust and faith; another training ground to step up from intellectual understanding to experiential understanding supporting me to level up in the game to be the master of my craft. It is also a way for the Universe to support me to be more consistent in my Daily Rhythm. Every moment, the Universe is gifting me with my highest good.

The accidental discovery of the tumour was orchestrated by the Universe because I have no symptoms. First time I thought of my gynaecologist was when I wanted to confirm that I wasn’t pregnant around 15-Dec but that didn't create much urgency. Then a week later, our daughter messaged on the family group in the middle of the night that she wants to meet the gynaecologist because she hasn’t had her periods for 2 months. That pushed me out of my inertia to schedule the appointment with the gynaecologist. The last time I met her was 15 years ago when she delivered our second baby. When she suggested ultrasound to rule out the unlikely chance of pregnancy, I was open. The radiologist discovered the tumour, sent me back to the gynaecologist who sent me to the oncologist who advised PET-Scan and confirmed cancerous tumour on seeing the report. He wanted to immediately do biopsy to locate the exact position of the tumour and do the surgery to remove it.

That route doesn’t heart and soul align with me in the moment. So, I went to our family doctor who is a homeopath and started with the homeopathic treatment. Reached out to my senior Yoga mentor to request change in my yoga practise to work on dissolving the tumour through yoga therapy. Reached out to my Nutrition coach who advised me to move to raw. It isn’t a difficult transition as  2/3 of my meals are already raw. Shared with Leon (my life, leadership and business coach) in our weekly coaching session my commitment to heal myself naturally. His holding my space brings me greater confidence, ease and grace to travel this journey. I continue to be awed by the caring support that the Universe offers us on our journey from good to great. Kay Lord, Herb's business partner in the US, is coming to Mumbai to run 2-weeks of Psychodrama training for the trainers in March. That will give me an opportunity to heal the little scared girl I had discovered crouched in the corner of a room during the training with Herb a year ago.

Adds, my spouse, is onboard with my decision. It didn't feel right to tell my parents. Though, Di, my sister who is a pathologist with the Indian Army threw a fit. For her, I am consciously choosing death. I have promised her to review my markers and my decision a month later. That gives me freedom from emotional pressure from her and Rose, my other sister, for at least a month.

I am happy to embrace Death with Grace and Gratitude whenever it comes along - now or 100 years later. Till then, life is a fun adventure to learn, contribute and grow.

A great question at this point is - Then, what’s the point of doing the RYD Habits, doing yoga, karate, functional fitness, plant-based diet, sleep early, waking up in wee hours, meditation, continuously doing the inner work to raise my consciousness, spending hours learning to be the master of my craft, taking the difficult road with the commitment to build a great business that makes a massive difference when at any point, Death may invite us to dance with her out of our current existence?

Isn’t then life meaningless, a futile journey? Why not live the easy life and have fun being addicted to everything possible because anyway one will die, whichever life we choose - life of growth habits or life of limiting habits?

Here’s the point I am standing at on the Ball of Perspective. Take it if it contributes to you or change it in a way it does.

Let me address the first question first - How did Cancer happen to me inspite of all the growth habits and transformative practises I have been following for years? 

All dis-ease in the physical body is a function of un-ease, discomfort and trauma in the other 4 bodies - energy, emotional, mental, spiritual - and for healing the physical body, we have to heal all the 5 bodies.

Our purpose every lifetime is to move from darkness to light - from low energy to joyous energy in the energy body, from feeling sad / mad / bad to feeling glad in the emotional body, from limiting thought patterns (small mind) to limitless thought patterns (big mind) in the mental body, from fear (hole in the soul) to love (whole soul) in the spiritual body. We call this journey from Darkness to Light - Leadership Depth - which enables us to have it all.

Business Excellence is the playground where we play the great game of leading our business from good to great to make a massive difference to the communities we have a privilege to belong. Craft Mastery and Leadership Depth strengthen us to play the great game of Business Excellence.

As per Louise Hay, the limiting thought and emotional state that causes Tumour is - Nursing old hurts and shocks. Building remorse.

The limitless thought pattern and emotional state is - I lovingly release the past and turn my attention to this new day. All is well.

The limiting thought and emotional state that causes Cancer is Deep hurt. Longstanding resentment. Deep secret or grief eating away at the self. Carrying hatreds. "What's the use?"

The limitless thought pattern and emotional state is - I lovingly forgive and release all of the past. I choose to fill my world with joy. I love and approve of myself.

Though I have done lot of inner work, there's a lot more work to be done. The cancerous tumour is a gift, a truth teller, the way shower of the next set of work to be undertaken which I am ready to get started with grace and gratitude. Every month I take off is a month of re-invention. I discovered my next cycle of re-invention in this month 😊

The growth habits and transformative practises have helped me tremendously - I have more joyous energy at 50 than I had at 25, I am happier and more fulfilled than I have ever been, my business has grown creating greater impact and financial freedom, from near divorce to a marriage that we are both committed to nurture, our kids have begun to heal and flourish. Every area of my wheel of life has grown because of the RYD habits (growth habits and transformative practises) and I am deeply grateful for the growth I am experiencing. Their promise is not that there will be no breakdowns along the journey. Their promise is that we would have the inner strength to transform every breakdown into a breakthrough. 

In the face of every breakdown, we have the privilege of the choice to break down or break through by raising our consciousness. We are spiritual beings with a tiny human experience on a journey, possibly over many lifetimes, with the purpose to become a whole soul. 

I love and accept myself as I am right now.
I love and accept Life as it is right now.

And, that's the gift I want you to experience because at that consciousness, we get full access to our inner Power to Create.

Rest of the month

Maldives was a fun family vacation. After that, flew to Canary Islands, Spain to attend Verne Harnish's CEO Bootcamp. It was a huge learning experience, not only because it up-levelled my craft on Business Excellence but also the travel to another country dissolved resistance (read fears) to travelling outside the country and taking long-distance flights. Met my MBA batchmate after 25 years in Helsinki in between flights. I not only re-connected with her but also re-connected with my younger self.

A Bagful of more learnings. Will leave that to another day 😊

Let's continue to inquire, reflect and journey forward to joyously lead ourselves and our businesses from good to great, realize our dreams and have it all with ease and grace; experiencing beauty, balance and harmony within and all around; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
​j.

There was Ease and Grace in the Saturday sessions, inspite of the fact that we did something completely new and possibly uncomfortable.

During the Business Excellence sessions on Sunday, the group energy was a little uneven and disintegrated. I was using brute force to integrate and bring the group energy back together; instead of being my Spiritual Values of Love, Gratitude and Reverence which would have brought Ease and Grace back into the Space far more effortlessly and quickly.

Why was I not being my Spiritual Values? Because Fear came back.

What Fear was it? Fear that we would not get the results that I wanted us to get, instead of trusting the process of Life that whatever would serve each group member would get created for that group member with ease and grace.

With Fear, the High Performer role in me sneaked in with her agenda of what she wanted done, using the energy of force to make things happen pushing out the Peaceful Warrior role sourced in Love, whose only agenda is to create what would most serve people in her Space.

The group members mirrored the disintegrated energy of the 'High Performer role in me' leading the session - urge to have caffeine to sit through the sessions, hunger showed up, tiredness showed up, distraction showed up, low energy showed up, cross conversations disintegrated the group energy, we couldn't sit still, we moved places - from inside to outside to inside again, I forgot to eat my dinner and I forgot to change into an Indian dress in honour of my Hindustani Classical teacher who came in to enthral us with her magical voice during the Musical Evening at the end of the day.

It was My Agenda that pushed Ease and Grace out. My Agenda actually showed up the night before and it sent a detailed hour by hour agenda to the group for Sunday. That should have given me a clue.

I woke up the next day at 3 am with a distracted, all-over-the-place energy. In spite of waking up at 3 am, I didn't get done with my personal practise. 

That's the challenge. The distracted hole-in-the-soul energy didn't allow me to do my personal practise. Yet, it is my personal practise that would have dissolved the distracted, low hole-in-the-soul energy. I sat with my Morning Pages for 1.5 hours with only 1.5 pages done when normally I do 4 pages in 30 minutes or less.

Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now. I love and accept Life as it is right now. - Saturday night, I fell from this Gear 5 Consciousness to Gear 4. With that, Ease and Grace reduced.

Each group member is whole, complete and perfect as each one is right now. I love and accept each group member as each group member is right now. - I fell from this Gear 4 consciousness to Gear 3 in quick succession to earlier fall above. With that, Ease and Grace reduced even further.

I am whole, complete and perfect as I am right now. I love and accept myself as I am right now. I trust the process of Life. I trust the Universe. I am a channel of impact. I am making a difference. - I fell from this Gear 3 consciousness to Gear 2 as a follow up on the above fall. With that, Ease and Grace reduced even further.

You are extraordinary. I love you. - I fell from this Gear 2 consciousness to Gear 1. With that, Ease and Grace reduced even further.

I am extraordinary. I love myself. - I fell from this Gear 1 consciousness to Gear 0. With that, Ease and Grace completely vanished leaving space for my High Performer role to step back right in to sit in the throne of my consciousness who sent a detailed hour by hour Agenda for the next day.

I acknowledge my broken word to each group member for not being Love, Gratitude and Reverence; Joy, Ease and Grace moment to moment during the Business Excellence sessions on Sunday. The impact was reduced group energy and potentially, loss of greater contribution to the group members. I take responsibility of that. My new promise is to be Love, Gratitude and Reverence; Integrity and Equanimity; Joy, Ease and Grace; moment to moment.

My structure of success is to prioritise my personal practise on a daily basis over work, however exciting it may be; so that when I most need my personal practise, its available for me.

My structure of success is also to slow down in the moment; release my agendas and be my spiritual values to be a loving, nurturing, soothing Space moment by moment for peaceful stillness of Silence to fill me up; allowing me to be fully present to each emotion, each thought in the room; giving me balance and harmony within to coach from my heart and soul even in the Business Excellence sessions; creating Space for the mind to expand infinitely to serve my coachees massively as I attune to their deepest sense of self and letting that lead the deep-dive immersion.

My structure of success is also to expand my capacity to sit with pain and allow for healing moments; enabling me to hold Space for the emergence of what wants to happen; trusting the mystery and magic of transformation.

I am grateful to my coach, Leon Vanderpol, with whom I reflected on Tuesday to understand why I lost Ease and Grace, and found clarity as an outcome of our session; subsequently expressed through Morning Pages today. The structure of success is his gift to me.

I am also grateful to one of my coachees who shared what he felt during the Business Excellence sessions. That is when I woke up and went on a journey of self-inquiry to unravel what I had missed to see before. 

A question might as well be that whether the journey is worthwhile if Ease and Grace can leave you, even after 32 years of travelling in search of Ease and Grace, and trying to hold it in.

What makes the journey worthwhile is that we are more Ease and Grace than before with every step forward and will always get an access to get back whenever we fall off, with every getting back strengthening the consciousness of Ease and Grace in us.

Here are few of my learnings along the way:
1. It's easier to find Ease and Grace when you search for it not for your own self, but to contribute to others.
2. To the degree hole in the soul dissolves, to that degree Ease and Grace emerges.
3. When we miss to live our Spiritual Values, we are being the Hole in the Soul in that moment. Ease and Grace leaves the Space in that very moment.
4. Reflecting after every fall from grace helps in getting back faster.
5. Intellectually, I have known it for years. Viscerally, I keep getting the understanding every time I am in a session with my coach that reflection, self-inquiry and self-understanding is more powerful in the loving, nurturing, healing, soothing space of another human-being because of which transformation accelerates.
6. We cannot go on a search for Ease and Grace. It simply emerges when all inner barriers (limiting beliefs and fears - conscious, sub-conscious, unconscious) have dissolved.  
7. We do not need to be pulled into the chaos around us, we can pull people into our peace within.
8. We can Have It All only when there's Ease and Grace. To the degree Ease and Grace vanishes, to that same degree Having It All moves out of our Life.
9. Our intentions get fulfilled and our dreams get realized effortlessly only in the presence of Ease and Grace. We don't need to work hard to fulfil our intentions and realize our dreams.

Universe always has our back. I know why Ease and Grace suddenly left me. It was because I had promised one of my coachees to write an article on - How to be Ease and Grace? And, then, I forgot about it. If it wasn't for the experience of losing Ease and Grace, being in the inquiry of it through journalling and session with my coach, I would have missed writing this article altogether before I went on my one-month year-end break. 

How wonderful the process of life is. Everything that happens is always supporting us and showing us a way forward towards our highest self though it may not look like that in the moment. If we dig deeper and move forward with childlike trust and faith, the truth always emerges that all that is happening is always for our highest good. 

Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now. I love and accept life as it is right now.
You are whole, complete and perfect as you are right now. I love and accept you as you are right now.
I am whole, complete and perfect as I am right now. I love and accept myself as I am right now.

Keep being Love, which is the highest Spiritual Value, to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; experiencing beauty, balance and harmony within and all around; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.