How to be Ease and Grace?

There was Ease and Grace in the Saturday sessions, inspite of the fact that we did something completely new and possibly uncomfortable.

During the Business Excellence sessions on Sunday, the group energy was a little uneven and disintegrated. I was using brute force to integrate and bring the group energy back together; instead of being my Spiritual Values of Love, Gratitude and Reverence which would have brought Ease and Grace back into the Space far more effortlessly and quickly.

Why was I not being my Spiritual Values? Because Fear came back.

What Fear was it? Fear that we would not get the results that I wanted us to get, instead of trusting the process of Life that whatever would serve each group member would get created for that group member with ease and grace.

With Fear, the High Performer role in me sneaked in with her agenda of what she wanted done, using the energy of force to make things happen pushing out the Peaceful Warrior role sourced in Love, whose only agenda is to create what would most serve people in her Space.

The group members mirrored the disintegrated energy of the 'High Performer role in me' leading the session - urge to have caffeine to sit through the sessions, hunger showed up, tiredness showed up, distraction showed up, low energy showed up, cross conversations disintegrated the group energy, we couldn't sit still, we moved places - from inside to outside to inside again, I forgot to eat my dinner and I forgot to change into an Indian dress in honour of my Hindustani Classical teacher who came in to enthral us with her magical voice during the Musical Evening at the end of the day.

It was My Agenda that pushed Ease and Grace out. My Agenda actually showed up the night before and it sent a detailed hour by hour agenda to the group for Sunday. That should have given me a clue.

I woke up the next day at 3 am with a distracted, all-over-the-place energy. In spite of waking up at 3 am, I didn't get done with my personal practise. 

That's the challenge. The distracted hole-in-the-soul energy didn't allow me to do my personal practise. Yet, it is my personal practise that would have dissolved the distracted, low hole-in-the-soul energy. I sat with my Morning Pages for 1.5 hours with only 1.5 pages done when normally I do 4 pages in 30 minutes or less.

Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now. I love and accept Life as it is right now. - Saturday night, I fell from this Gear 5 Consciousness to Gear 4. With that, Ease and Grace reduced.

Each group member is whole, complete and perfect as each one is right now. I love and accept each group member as each group member is right now. - I fell from this Gear 4 consciousness to Gear 3 in quick succession to earlier fall above. With that, Ease and Grace reduced even further.

I am whole, complete and perfect as I am right now. I love and accept myself as I am right now. I trust the process of Life. I trust the Universe. I am a channel of impact. I am making a difference. - I fell from this Gear 3 consciousness to Gear 2 as a follow up on the above fall. With that, Ease and Grace reduced even further.

You are extraordinary. I love you. - I fell from this Gear 2 consciousness to Gear 1. With that, Ease and Grace reduced even further.

I am extraordinary. I love myself. - I fell from this Gear 1 consciousness to Gear 0. With that, Ease and Grace completely vanished leaving space for my High Performer role to step back right in to sit in the throne of my consciousness who sent a detailed hour by hour Agenda for the next day.

I acknowledge my broken word to each group member for not being Love, Gratitude and Reverence; Joy, Ease and Grace moment to moment during the Business Excellence sessions on Sunday. The impact was reduced group energy and potentially, loss of greater contribution to the group members. I take responsibility of that. My new promise is to be Love, Gratitude and Reverence; Integrity and Equanimity; Joy, Ease and Grace; moment to moment.

My structure of success is to prioritise my personal practise on a daily basis over work, however exciting it may be; so that when I most need my personal practise, its available for me.

My structure of success is also to slow down in the moment; release my agendas and be my spiritual values to be a loving, nurturing, soothing Space moment by moment for peaceful stillness of Silence to fill me up; allowing me to be fully present to each emotion, each thought in the room; giving me balance and harmony within to coach from my heart and soul even in the Business Excellence sessions; creating Space for the mind to expand infinitely to serve my coachees massively as I attune to their deepest sense of self and letting that lead the deep-dive immersion.

My structure of success is also to expand my capacity to sit with pain and allow for healing moments; enabling me to hold Space for the emergence of what wants to happen; trusting the mystery and magic of transformation.

I am grateful to my coach, Leon Vanderpol, with whom I reflected on Tuesday to understand why I lost Ease and Grace, and found clarity as an outcome of our session; subsequently expressed through Morning Pages today. The structure of success is his gift to me.

I am also grateful to one of my coachees who shared what he felt during the Business Excellence sessions. That is when I woke up and went on a journey of self-inquiry to unravel what I had missed to see before. 

A question might as well be that whether the journey is worthwhile if Ease and Grace can leave you, even after 32 years of travelling in search of Ease and Grace, and trying to hold it in.

What makes the journey worthwhile is that we are more Ease and Grace than before with every step forward and will always get an access to get back whenever we fall off, with every getting back strengthening the consciousness of Ease and Grace in us.

Here are few of my learnings along the way:
1. It's easier to find Ease and Grace when you search for it not for your own self, but to contribute to others.
2. To the degree hole in the soul dissolves, to that degree Ease and Grace emerges.
3. When we miss to live our Spiritual Values, we are being the Hole in the Soul in that moment. Ease and Grace leaves the Space in that very moment.
4. Reflecting after every fall from grace helps in getting back faster.
5. Intellectually, I have known it for years. Viscerally, I keep getting the understanding every time I am in a session with my coach that reflection, self-inquiry and self-understanding is more powerful in the loving, nurturing, healing, soothing space of another human-being because of which transformation accelerates.
6. We cannot go on a search for Ease and Grace. It simply emerges when all inner barriers (limiting beliefs and fears - conscious, sub-conscious, unconscious) have dissolved.  
7. We do not need to be pulled into the chaos around us, we can pull people into our peace within.
8. We can Have It All only when there's Ease and Grace. To the degree Ease and Grace vanishes, to that same degree Having It All moves out of our Life.
9. Our intentions get fulfilled and our dreams get realized effortlessly only in the presence of Ease and Grace. We don't need to work hard to fulfil our intentions and realize our dreams.

Universe always has our back. I know why Ease and Grace suddenly left me. It was because I had promised one of my coachees to write an article on - How to be Ease and Grace? And, then, I forgot about it. If it wasn't for the experience of losing Ease and Grace, being in the inquiry of it through journalling and session with my coach, I would have missed writing this article altogether before I went on my one-month year-end break. 

How wonderful the process of life is. Everything that happens is always supporting us and showing us a way forward towards our highest self though it may not look like that in the moment. If we dig deeper and move forward with childlike trust and faith, the truth always emerges that all that is happening is always for our highest good. 

Life is whole, complete and perfect as it is right now. I love and accept life as it is right now.
You are whole, complete and perfect as you are right now. I love and accept you as you are right now.
I am whole, complete and perfect as I am right now. I love and accept myself as I am right now.

Keep being Love, which is the highest Spiritual Value, to joyously lead yourself and your business from good to great, realize your dreams and have it all with ease and grace; experiencing beauty, balance and harmony within and all around; while having lots of fun and adventure along the way 💜

Loving you,
j.