How Your Greatest Self Can Only be Found by Jumping into the Ocean of Your Fears?

Fear is actually a mechanism for self-protection and is inherent in the human psyche because of our evolutionary process. Charles Darwin called it the Survival of the Fittest. Survival instinct is an indication of the presence of Fear. So, for billions of years, Life has been motivated by Fear. If there is Life, there is Fear. Our brains are hard-wired with that ingredient.

The very thing that supported us to survive is th​e very thing that comes in the way of our further evolution and transformation. Fear got us to this point, it cannot take us any further. It is a vestigial organ in the Body of Humanity.

What is Fear? Just as darkness is an absence of light, fear is an absence of love; love for self to begin with, evolving to love for all beings. There are essentially three primary fears that we humans have -
a. I am not good enough.
b. I am not important.
c. I am all alone. No one loves me.

Transformation to our highest self is a five stage process that transmutes the default fear circuitry of the mind by shining on the absence the presence of the light called love:
a. Unconscious - At this stage, we are unconscious of our fears. We unconsciously spend time pushing our fears under the carpet so as not to see them. We create our circumstances, the way people and Life treat us but we are blind to us being at the source of all that is created around us. We experience being trapped with no access out. We may even be so unconscious that we hide the experience of being trapped itself from our own selves and coat our existence with a pretence of 'Life is Good'. Lets call it being at Gear 0 of our Growth Cycle. 

In Gear 0, there's too much work, too little time. We are racing through life, from moment to moment, from pillar to post. We are victim of other people, situations, circumstances. Health is an issue. We are busy being busy. We are constantly seeking approval and appreciation but when it comes, it does not fulfil. We have no Power to Create.

b. Conscious - As we move forward in our own individual journey of growth, we become conscious of our fears. We begin to become conscious of the emptiness inside inspite of all the success outside. We begin to see the connection between our fears and our circumstances; between our fears and the way people & Life treats us; though only after the mess has been created, after the devastation has taken place. And, as yet, we can do nothing to escape because we become conscious only after we have created the mess, only after it is too late to do anything.

This is Gear 1 of our Growth Cycle. After the mess of experiencing a life-threatening disease or loss of a loved one or relationship breakdown or career breakdown or any other intense experience of failure, we have a choice to either allow ourselves to break down or make the choice to become conscious and continue the evolutionary process of growth towards our highest self. 

In Gear 1, we give ourselves the permission to experience ourselves as extra-ordinary and to give unconditional love & acceptance to one's own self. We make the choice to love, acknowledge, appreciate and approve ourselves instead of seeking it from others. This creates deep stillness within with nowhere to go and nothing to prove. 

We strengthen our Agility of Mind leadership muscle to be able to jump from Gear 0 to Gear 1. There are various personal practises across the four bodies (physical, mental / intellectual, emotional, spiritual) of our Being that give us the inner strength to make this massive shift in human consciousness. One such practise is to write acknowledgements for one's own self on a daily basis. This practise requires huge agility of mind.

c. Awareness - If we continue walking towards our highest self, the next stage is Awareness. At this stage, we are fully aware that we are at the source of all that is in our life. We begin to understand how the outer world is truly a mirror of our inner world. We are aware of the fear, thought, emotion, words, actions as they arise in that order in our body to create the limiting outcome in the world outside. Though, as yet, we are still caught up in our limiting physical, emotional, mental and spiritual habits that do not allow us to create anything different.

This is Gear 2 of our Growth Cycle. This is the challenge of life. If you stay in one place, you die. It is only in continuously growing that we stay alive. At some point, we need to make the choice to step up to Gear 2 or risk falling back to Gear 0.

​In Gear 2, we make the choice to relate to every other being as extra-ordinary and to give our unconditional love & acceptance to all beings, however they are and however they are not. We experience Oneness with the Universe. We are at home everywhere and with everyone.

We strengthen our Being of Service leadership muscle to shift gears from 1 to 2 to move forward on our journey to our highest self with greater velocity. The practise of Gratitude and Positive Aspects serves us powerfully in this gear.

d. Creation - As we journey forward, we finally begin to experience our inner power to create. Due to deep inner work, we cause a massive shift in human consciousness in our own self. Moment by moment; as the Fear arises, we get access to choose Love over Fear. As a limiting thought, emotion, word, action arises in that order; we have created a large enough gap to be able to choose a limitless thought leading to a limitless emotion leading to positive words leading to powerful, effective actions creating a whole new reality, not available to us before. We begin to experience positive shifts in all the areas of our wheel of life - career, relationships, kids, finances, health etc.

This is Gear 3 in our Growth Cycle. In this gear, we finally experience love, appreciation and respect from people around us. We experience others' deep love, gratitude and reverence for who we are as human beings. We experience others experiencing us as extra-ordinary. Isn't this what we all yearn for? The problem is that we are trying to scramble for this from Gear 0, where it is not available. We can only experience it if we cycle up to Gear 3.

Gear 3 is the Journey to Nothingness. We experience the powerful creative energy of being Nothing. Ego (which is Fear pretending to be us) dissolves and we experience Effortless Existence. We strengthen our Communicating in the World of Others leadership muscle to change the gears from 2 to 3. Committed Listening, Childlike Trust and Faith, Leading with Questions are some powerful practises that help us to strengthen ourselves to drive forward the car of our Being with velocity and purpose.

e. Leadership - We continue our journey of growth and evolution by continuously doing deep inner work across all the four bodies of our Being to step into Leadership. This is when we can finally lay claim to becoming a Leader from the inside. Without reaching this gear, we are only pretending to be Leaders that we truly are not.

This is Gear 4 in our Growth Cycle. When we have massively shifted our human consciousness to be in Gear 4, others experience themselves as Extra-ordinary and experience deep Love, Gratitude & Reverence for themselves in our space. This is when the Leader in us is born. We experience significant Power to Create in the world outside.

To shift to Gear 4, we strengthen the Delivering on My Word leadership muscle. Me and my word are the same. We journey to Everyoneness. It is here at this stage that we feel an authentic connection with each one. The smile spreads from our mouth to our eyes and our heart to everyone else around us. We are centred, we feel settled, a peaceful sense of joyous abundance spreads all around us and inside us, and suddenly we can do so much more than was possible before. Sickness gives way to well-being; relationship breakdown transforms into deep friendship; a failed business rises up to profitability, market leadership and success; an estranged child comes home into our loving embrace; any left-over cynicism and resignation disintegrate totally, and is replaced by the joyous celebration of being alive.

f. Mastery - The purpose of each one of us in our lifetime is to journey to our own greatness through personal mastery. This is Gear 5 of our Growth Cycle.

In our space, when we are in Gear 5, people experience each other as Extra-ordinary and experience deep Love, Gratitude and Reverence for each other. The Master is born. There is Mastery of Life itself.

We strengthen Excellence leadership muscle to shift gears from 4 to 5. Power to Create is in full bloom. We intend and it gets created almost instantaneously. We experience Effortless Creation and Journey to Everythingness. It is here that we finally have the power to Have It All - deeply fulfilling, successful career; loving, harmonious relationships; happy responsible healthy kids with their genius joyfully expressed; lots of nourishing, nurturing me-time; while making a huge difference in the world through our work; leaving footprints in the sand of time, having forever moved humanity forward with an act of one person being on this Journey of personal mastery.

It is as if we were Peaceful Warriors on our Hero's Journey, fighting an inner battle with the Fear monster which obstructs us from embracing our Inner Light, our innate Greatness. By removing the thick heavy curtain of darkness separating us from our Light and stepping into our Greatness, we contribute to the evolution of the human species on this planet.

Here are some fascinating figures from Doctor Hawkins' 29 years of research on the hidden determinants of human behaviour (as quoted by Dr Wayne Dyer in his book The Power of Intention):
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1. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of optimism and a willingness to be non-judgemental of others, will counterbalance the negativity of 90,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

2. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of pure love and reverence for all of life will counterbalance the negativity of 750,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

3. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of illumination, bliss, and infinite peace will counterbalance the negativity of 10 million people who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

4. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of grace, pure spirit beyond the body, in a world of non-duality or complete oneness, will counterbalance the negativity of 70 million people who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

It all is about how each one of us works, leads and lives.

Welcome home to your Hero's Journey.

Love, Jyoti.