How your Parenting Style impacts your Leadership Effectiveness at Workplace?

Imagine I passed you a bottle of water, which you gave to someone else. Will the content of the bottle undergo a transformation just because it changed hands from me to you to someone else? In the same way, who you are at home, at work and everywhere else does not change as you move one context to the other. The mask may change but the results we create is not the function of the mask but who we authentically are.

In other words, the whole of who we are is our Being which is the sum total of who we are physically, emotionally, intellectually (/ mentally) and spiritually. The habits at each of these four bodies define the outcomes we create in our lifetime. To access the full power to make a dent in the Universe by fulfilling on our purpose this lifetime, by fulfilling our highest intentions and realising our greatest dreams with impact and velocity is an outcome of first creating health and well-being by inculcating Growth Habits at each of these 4 bodies - physical, emotional, intellectual / mental, spiritual.

If we are not effective at home with kids who we are not able to inspire to live from their inner genius, their innate greatness, their inner light that they are meant to shine the world with; then Leadership Depth is missing where we are, irrespective of the big business outcomes that we may have created at workplace. If Leadership Depth were present, we would make a much bigger impact in the world not only outside our homes but also in our homes, not only outside us but inside us than we are currently creating; with deep joyous fulfilment, happiness, peace, love, connection, harmony, grace and freedom in our hearts.

In that sense, our children are our walking talking mirrors. They shout at us and not listen to us. We know we have shouted at them and others; and not listened to them and others at home and at work. They don't do their homework on time and get poor marks; we know that we are not really inspired to challenge ourselves to be a life-long learner, living with the experience of the joy of learning. They waste their time on screen instead of reading books or playing in the park; we know we spend way too much time on the screen instead of reading books and playing a sport to learn, grow and evolve ourselves. They are getting over-weight and we know we are not at the peak of our own health. They fight with each other and we know we parents have no friendship between us. They prefer eating a chocolate to a banana, a pizza to a roti, french fries to fresh, colourful vegetables; and we know we don't have healthy eating habits. They love their colas over drinking refreshing water and we know we love our tea, coffee, alcohol over coconut water.

There isn't a better Leadership training ground than home. We have to do 10 times of what we expect the kids to do. We want to stop hitting the snooze button if we want our kids to wake up at our first call. We want to practise unconditional love and acceptance; irrespective of what the kids do or don't do, irrespective of what the kids say or don't say, irrespective of how the kids are and how they are not; if we want our children to grow up with self-esteem and feel worthy of love.

We no longer can use rewards and punishments to control them, to get them to do what we want them to do because they will learn to crave for the rewards and learn aversion for the punishments, instead of learning what we really want them to learn - to be kind, loving, generous, honest, truthful, to have childlike trust & faith in the Universe and to live with gratitude, joy, reverence and mastery consciousness.

We want to learn how to connect with them at the deepest level so that they want to share their dark, fearful secrets and impossible, unimaginable dreams with us so that we can coach them to embrace their fears and joyously realize their greatest dreams in deepest communion with their highest self, making a huge difference in the world as they are meant to.

If we learn to be a Leader at home, we will know how to inspire our team members to stand tall with self-esteem, connect authentically with themselves and others in the organisation with compassionate love for each other, become masters of their domain and bring in such levels of self-generated 'being of service' that our customers experience themselves to be a part of our organizational family and become our fervent brand ambassadors that sales will no longer be about chasing customers and numbers.

Our teams will begin to function independently to our highest vision and collaborate with each other to create a business impact unimaginable and impossible before. All that we would need to do then is to get out of their way as they lead our business from good to great, from a fairly successful business to a massively transformational market leader far ahead of other businesses in the industry.

Wishing you such joyous and fulfilling success.

Love and Reverence,
​Jyoti.