Transforming What it Means to be a Woman

Dear Young Friend,

I love your authenticity and the courage to be vulnerable. Having experienced what you are experiencing when I was your age and now at 44, here are my learnings from having travelled some distance:

1. What I focus on grows. For every act by the other gender which hurts, there are many acts which are inspiring.

2. What I fear is what I receive more of from the world.

3. When I choose to be love, gratitude and reverence for all beings, I create a positive environment around me and that creates space for others to lift themselves into their innate positivity.

4. My self-esteem is a function of me and not really what other people do, say or think.

5. It is easier to point fingers at the other gender (I have been guilty of that and still catch myself many a times) but the power is in looking in the mirror as to why we are victims of all that there is. If we spent that energy on increasing our Leadership Depth, become Masters of our Craft, focus on becoming the best in the world in whatever our profession is; we will transform what it means to be a woman at the velocity not known before.

Here are some fascinating figures from Doctor Hawkins' 29 years of research on the hidden determinants of human behaviour (as quoted by Dr Wayne Dyer in his book The Power of Intention):

1. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of optimism and a willingness to be non-judgemental of others, will counterbalance the negativity of 90,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

2. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of pure love and reverence for all of life will counterbalance the negativity of 750,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels.

You and I can choose to vibrate with the energy of love and reverence for all of life and counterbalance the negativity of 15,00,000 people around us.

You may say this is like putting your head in the sand and wishing the problem away. I understand. There are a couple of ways for us to solve this problem:

a. Become a Fighter - Fight with the world at the injustice and fight for change in the world. Unfortunately, with this approach, more things to fight come up and it becomes an endless war with not much change. Fighting the symptoms and not healing the source of the disease will ensure we will keep fighting the symptoms all our life.

b. Become a Victim - Give up, moan and groan, feel helpless at the injustice with no access to our own power, creating the energy for more injustice done to us and our sisterhood.

c. Become a Peaceful Warrior - Fight the battle with our demons inside instead of with their reflection in the world outside. Sure, honour our intuition and take actions from there. Protect ourself, if there is a need because symptoms need to be cared for too. And yet, simultaneously take on working on the source of the disease. We work on the source by learning, growing and evolving to the next level of what it means to be a human being, journeying from the evolutionary Fear towards transcendent Love; exponentially increasing our performance, productivity, effectiveness, innovation and creativity to be the best in our profession, contributing to humanity through our work. When we do this, we will have it all - deeply fulfilling successful, prosperity and abundance creating career; loving harmonious relationships, happy responsible kids with their Genius joyfully expressed; lots of nourishing, nurturing me-time; while making making a difference in the world. Inside of this transformation, each being experiences the power to lift themselves to their highest self. This requires Leadership Depth. This requires a new way of Being within a new model of Leadership; inside of which we nourish, strengthen and transform all the four bodies of our Being (Physical, Intellectual / Mental, Emotional, Spiritual) by letting go of limiting habits in each body and taking on growth habits. 

I invite you to be a Peaceful Warrior. I invite all beings to be Peaceful Warriors to create a Brave New World leading our species forward to its next phase of evolution - from fear-based Survival of the Fittest to love-sourced Transformation to Our Highest Self.

Wishing you a lifetime of optimism, childlike trust and faith in the Universe and Humanity, love, success and abundance.

Stay blessed.

Love, Jyoti.