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When to Divorce your Spouse and your Organization?

16/11/2017

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The perfect time to divorce your spouse is when you are deeply in love with her. The right time to leave your organization is when you are deeply fulfilled with and joyously passionate about the work you do, you are at the peak of your career, the future is looking extremely bright for you in the organization and you are about to get your next big promotion.

You see; your spouse and your organization are the only opportunities you have for your learning, growth, evolution and transformation to your highest self. When there's trouble, you are not enjoying, not having fun, being there seems like a drag, you don't feel the connection, you don't feel love, joy or passion; you jump the boat looking for it elsewhere. In that jump, you lose an incredible powerful structure to look in the mirror to discover yourself at the source of the mess-up, disengagement, emptiness, stress and miss to work on yourself to transform what it means to be you; to remove yet another curtain between you and your Light, your greatness. You delay your own evolution and transformation; and in that, delay it for all of humanity because of which the world is torn apart with impregnable walls between the two genders, between religions, countries, between the rich and the poor, between the illiterate and the literate, between neighbours, between you and me. Universal Consciousness is really a sum total of the consciousness of each being in the Universe, each one of us is a part of the whole. Then, isn't each one of us responsible for how it is out there? 

A relationship has three phases:

Phase 1: Honeymoon Period - In this phase, you project your best self and focus on only the best parts of the other (person or organization). No real growth takes place here because the focus is only on projection.

Phase 2: Growth Phase - As the honeymoon period ends, slowly but surely whatever you loved in the other suddenly becomes irritating. Joy and passion gives way to complaining, nagging, resignation, cynicism and disengagement. If you are intelligent, you will push all this under the carpet and get busy with being busy; while consciously or unconsciously hunting for other options. This phase is your only opportunity for growth. If you walk out, you lose the opportunity. Instead of walking out, you could take 100% responsibility of all that happens in your space and look inside for the reason of the rot outside; and take powerful effective action on all the four bodies of your Being (Intellectual / Mental, Physical, Emotional, Spiritual) to walk towards your highest self. In that journey; you will heal yourself, heal your relationship and re-discover the joy and passion of being in that relationship. In that journey, you will find yourself on the path to realize your greatest dreams in deepest communion with your highest self and have it all - deeply fulfilling, super successful, abundance creating career; loving harmonious relationships; happy, responsible kids with their genius joyfully expressed; lots of nourishing me-time; while being at the source of transformation in the world.

Phase 3: Partnership Phase - Here you partner with the other; experiencing deep love, gratitude and reverence for yourself and for each other; supporting each other on the journey towards greatness, towards Light. You lead your family and your organization from good to great.

What usually ends up happening is that when the Honeymoon Period ends, most people walk out and start another Honeymoon Period elsewhere. When it ends again, they start yet another Honeymoon Period and go on forever; or alternatively, they become resigned, cynical, bitter, hurt, suffering the pain of loneliness / disengagement / disconnectedness, blaming the other person, being the victim of the relationship. In both cases; never really learning, growing, evolving, transforming to the greatest version of themselves. That is why there's so little in the world that is great.

You may say; I want to honeymoon all my life and I don't care about greatness, good is good enough. And I say, hold the mirror to authentically look into your eyes, put your hand on your heart and with full vulnerability listen to what it is saying, close your eyes and feel what your body is feeling. They will tell you if good is really good enough.

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Jyoti.
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