You Know You Have Arrived in Life When ...

You know you have arrived in Life when:

1. You can look at white strands on your hair or balding pate and smile to yourself in the mirror, without the urge to get your hair coloured or your head covered.

2. Your little one spills his paints on your exquisite silk carpet just before the big party and you don't come crashing down on him.

3. Your kids fail and you still see their Genius shining through. Infact, you together celebrate the failure.

4. You are less about what dresses you have in your cupboard, and more about the next thing you are going to learn. 

5. You can see beauty in the wrinkles of the old man begging on the road. In fact, you can see beauty in your own wrinkles winking back at you from the mirror.

6. The lone green tree on the way to your office fills your heart with joy, instead of sadness for the eroding greenery.

7. Your Good Morning to the guy sweeping the floor in your office and to your biggest client has the same smile, acknowledgement and joy of welcome. 

8. NOs don't pull you down and YESs don't fill you up with excitement. In either case, you are filled with the joy of living purposefully.

9. You can feel love and reverence in your heart for every Being around you.

10. You can see and feel the perfection in all the apparent chaos outside in the world and inside in your heart, head, body & spirit.

11. Your focus is so sharp that there is joy and fulfilment in simply focussing on what you are doing. 

12. Your intentions are in the future but your attention is solidly in the present moment.

13. You have discovered that the reason you are part of a particular family, group, organization, community, country is so that you can be of service to them.

14. Your word is your life and you are willing to be the only person to show up for a meeting or a get-together just because you gave your word. You expected a crowd and only one person shows up for your show. You give him the very best and even better than your best, because you gave your word that you will.

15. You no longer seek love, approval and appreciation from outside to feel complete because your own love, approval and appreciation for your own self completes you.

​16. You can feel love in people's criticism for you.

17. You pull the world to your peace rather than get pulled into the chaos.

18. You have the courage to be vulnerable. You bring people closer to yourself and to each other by your willingness to drop all your masks and be vulnerable & authentic, 

19. You one-line growth strategy in Life is to do things that make you feel uncomfortable.

20. You love doing what embarrasses you because you like a good laugh at yourself.

21. You like to hear other people talk more than hear your own voice - either through your mouth or in your head. You prefer to be interested rather than interesting.

22. You keep digging in to discover hidden fears to bring them into the light of the day to face them head-on rather then let them lie hidden under the carpet festering.

23. Broken roads, polluted air, creaking infrastructure in your city doesn't bring you down because you feel responsible for everything in your space and find a creative outlet for your anger, frustration by making a difference instead of grumbling and complaining.

24. You read a book standing in a queue or even better, engage in a joyous conversation with strangers standing next to you; rather than impatiently shuffle around or keep checking in to know how many likes you have on which social media site or get busy with whatsapp.

25. You know social media makes you anti-social and what makes you social is to meet people in person. You have the willpower to get on social media only once a day for a power session of 1 hour or less.

When you have arrived, you will discover that you have it all - deeply fulfilling successful career, loving harmonious relationships at work and at home, happy responsible kids with their genius joyfully expressed, lots of nourishing nurturing me-time, while making a huge difference in the world. Oh, yes, you can have it all. The question is - Are you willing to learn, grow and evolve to create it for yourself.

Love, Jyoti.