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The fulfilment is not so much in realising our dreams; greater fulfilment and joy lies in who we end up becoming in the process of getting our dreams realised. Therefore, let’s have dreams that scare us. Then, they are bigger than who we are right now; giving us a pathway for our growth. In my experience, without a dream shining through our eyes and filling our heart with passion, we end up living half lives, a zombie-like existence of sorts. Wealth is an outcome of a dream and not the other way around. So, lets articulate to ourselves to begin with what is our greatest dream. The age of survival is our past, awakening to our highest dreams is our present and the age of realising our dreams is what we are living into. We have killed many dreams in the past, our own and of our loved ones, in the name of survival. Let us no longer do that because that’s what separates us from our soul and makes us inhuman. Lets raise our kids to be deeply connected to what song sings in their hearts by deeply re-connecting ourselves to what makes us sing and dance. Lets find out what are the dreams of people who work with us and for us; and support them on their journey. In that act of loving kindness, we get the inner strength to fulfil our dreams to create a new reality. Tell me your dream and I will tell you how far you will go. Here are the dreams of few people who made a difference. Their dreams, which they articulated much before there was anything to show for it, created the reality that they dreamt. We will put a computer in every home and every office across America. - Bill Gates. He not only realised his dream (Microsoft is the world's sixth-largest information technology company by revenue) but also build the world's largest private charitable foundation. We’re here to put a dent in the universe. Otherwise why else even be here? — Steve Jobs. Apple Inc. is the world's largest information technology company by revenue. We choose to go to the moon by the end of this decade, not because it is easy but because it is hard. - JFK. USA’s space agency NASA is top-ranked in the world and is known for being a master of space research. Into that heaven of freedom, my Father, let my country awake. - Rabindranath Tagore. He became the intellectual and social consciousness of India. He remodelled education as a holistic development process where teachers would be more like mentors guiding students towards emotional, intellectual and spiritual upliftment. He invested his Nobel Prize money in building the campus for Shantiniketan, a University town. His educational reforms are included in many curriculae across the world. At a time when India was struggling to find the right language of freedom movement, Tagore advocated the idea of global integrity and that the man himself is a gateway to the world. This philosophy changed the way Indians saw the world. The purpose of the freedom struggle changed from protest to progress as Tagore explained the universality of man. The identity of India after independence was closely based on Tagore's ideology of peace and universal brotherhood. Our dreams have to be bigger. Our ambitions higher. Our commitment deeper. And our efforts greater. This is my dream for Reliance and for India. - Dhirubhai Ambani. From a petrol-pump attendant to a business magnate. He grew Reliance from 1 employee to over 250,000 employees, from initial investment of Rs 1,000 to a company of over Rs 6 lakh crores, from operations in only one city to 28,000 cities and towns, and over four lakh villages. If I were to attribute any single reason to such success as I have achieved, I would say that success would not have been possible without a sustained belief that what I did or attempted to do would serve the needs and interests of our country and our people and that I was a trustee of such interests. - JRD Tata. Under his leadership, the assets of his business assets grew from Rs 62 crore in 1939 to more than Rs 10,000 crore in 1990. He is a founder of many landmark Indian businesses - Tata Consultancy Services, Tata Motors, Titan Industries, Tata Salt, Voltas and Air India - contributing significantly to the economic prosperity of his country. Disney had long dreamed of creating an amusement park based on his characters, but had difficulty getting financing for the project. Finally, in the early 1950s, he mortgaged his life insurance, stock holdings, house and furniture to purchase an orange grove near Anaheim, California, and finance the construction of a 185-acre amusement park. Opened in 1955, Disneyland quickly became one of the world's most popular tourist attractions. Dubbed "The Happiest Place on Earth," Disneyland became the real-life version of the fantasy world Disney had escaped to in his youth. Don’t let cynicism, resignation and lack of self-belief come in the way of your dreams. Each unrealised dream is a massive missed opportunity for the world. All the chaos in the world is because people are chasing everything else but their dreams. I believe it is the destiny of each one of us of realise our greatest dreams in deepest communion with our highest self but we come in our own way and add to the misery in our hearts and in the world. If we want greater love, harmony, peace, joy and progress in the world; then we must nurture and nourish our dreams for them to bloom to full glory. Welcome home to your dream. Love, Jyoti. References: www.indiatoday.in www.rankred.com/top-10-space-research-organisations-world/ www.macworld.com www.yourstory.com www.entrepreneur.com www.financialexpress.com
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Wealth follows if you build yourself as a key person of influence in your industry and not the other way around. Priestly gives his take on how to build yourself to be a key person of influence. It's an idea that needs continual re-enforcement as we tend to confuse the cause and the effect; and end up wasting a lot of money, time and effort. Here are some key ideas from the book: 1. The harder you work, the less you earn. Your best ideas will come out to play ... not to work. ... The minute you begin to feel yourself "working hard" as opposed to "playing a challenging game", its time to take a break. 2. ... the difference between successful people (and unsuccessful people) on the planet is not Functionality, it's Vitality. Functionality is about performing a task well, whereas Vitality is about doing it joyfully. ... Beneath your desire to have a great home, a snappy wardrobe and some money in the bank is a part of you that longs to make a difference as well. Getting in touch with this part of you will give you a broadband connection to your Vitality. 3. Your greatest asset is your existing passion, the skills you already have and, most of all, your own personal story. ... The truth is that your real wealth lies in your story. Your journey thus far has not been a waste of time; it's been perfect. Your hobbies and interests are not meaningless, they are a gold mine. Your passion isn't hollow; it's the best fuel you will ever have. ... The person who just made a fortune from real estate loved real estate for a long time before they got rich. The person who trades the markets was happy trading through the ups and downs for a long time before they just seemed to "get it right". The NLP Life Coach did three years of unpaid work in the industry before they got their break. ... Unless you have been keenly interested in something for atleast seven years, forget trying to be a success story in that field. You simply can't outdo the people who genuinely love that industry, because they don't think it is a quick formula for cashing in. 4. All of your future learnings will come from the process of producing value. 5. The top 20% of the USA's wealthy control 89% of all the wealth! The top 1% control 34%. ... Wealth moves to and from a small percentage of Key People of Influence. If you are a Key Person in the top 20%, you can expect to be sharing in 89% of the pie. If you aren't, you will be fighting it out with the other 80% of people for the remaining 11%. It will be exhausting... 6. There are 5 things that you need to have in place for you to demonstrate that you are a Key Person of Influence (KPI): i. Know and communicate your micro-niche a. KPIs can answer the question "what do you do?" with power and clarity. ... When you know "what you are upto in the world", you become a magnet for opportunity. b. … at the heart of a "Perfect Pitch" is a mission …,”Your Big Game" you and your business want to be known for. Your perfect pitch is your "why". It's your compass. It's the reason you get up each day. c. More often than not, YOU will be the micro-niche. Your target market comprising a specific age group and gender will be YOU. The frustrations will be YOURS. d. Your micro-niche should consist of people who you would enjoy connecting with and people who would equally enjoy connecting with you. e. Choose a micro-niche that you identify with personally, with genuine concern and interest. ... you must know your stuff well that it comes more from your heart than your mind. ii. Gain credibility through writing - Your book ... tells the world that you are an authority in your field. a. A published book communicates some important and necessary messages about you. It says you have put enough thought into this idea to have written a book on it. People can read your ideas and get to know your story and your take on things. It also says that you must either be an expert or have access to experts. … Very few people have ever published a book and for most people, it’s impressive to know that you have completed this project. b. … there’s a book in everyone if they follow a process and commit to its completion. c. Here are 5 types of books you could write:
d. … a great book answers a significant question that the reader (your customer segment) is trying desperately to answer. e. Mark Twain - “The time to begin writing an article is when you have finished it to your satisfaction. By that time, you begin to clearly and logically perceive what it is you really want to say.” f. … you should choose a title that reinforces that you are a Key Person of Influence. It should be “brand enhancing” and you should feel proud to tell people that you are the author. g. … it is not vital that your book is a massive seller. It is more important that you are an author. … The purpose of the book is to promote you, not the other way around. The mere fact that you are an author and that people can see you on Amazon gives you more kudos and opportunities. h. … it is not authors who get great opportunities, it is Key Persons of Influence. Your goal is to become the Key Person of Influence …, not to spend all the energy to sell books. i. … atleast write a set of ten articles, each 1000-1500 words in length before you even begin to talk to publications. j. A book is a very valuable way to publish your ideas; however, if it’s genuinely not right for you at this time, get started on creating your set of articles ready for publication. iii. Turn what you know into product - An information product (such as a CD, DVD, Download etc.) opens up a world of opportunities. ... An information product can also be a high-value, high-margin product that can add considerable profit to your enterprise. a. From Victor Frankl’s book, Man’s Search for Meaning - “Everyone has his own specific vocation or mission in life; everyone must carry out a concrete assignment that demands fulfilment. Therein, he cannot be replaced, nor can his life be repeated, thus, everyone’s task is as unique as his specific opportunity.” b. There will always be a limitation on what you can earn if your earning capacity is based on your personal appearance. c. Regardless of your business, it is the ideas behind your business that make it special and prevent you from having to constantly compete on price. d. Any industry-specific product can be worth a lot of money and can make you one of the most respected people in your field, opening you up to joint ventures and partnerships. e. Everyone should have a free product. … The person who will dominate your industry in the next ten years will be the one who is able to give more away for free than anyone else. The fastest growing companies in the 2000s were all companies that gave away incredible value for free - Google, Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn. f. There’s nothing you can create more cheaply that has more value than an information product that shares your experience and insights with your potential clients. g. Share your best ideas with everyone. … The more people have, the more they want, so share your ideas freely. You will also make room in your mind to have even better ideas. iv. Raise your profile and Google well - When people do a search for your name, it must come up on the first results page that you are a KPI in your chosen field. Social media is like a microphone that amplifies you out to every corner of the world. Most people are too busy playing with the technology and go too far “off message”. v. Forge Joint Ventures & Partnerships - There are already experts in your industry who would jump up at the chance to be interviewed by you to create a product that enhances their brand (and yours). a. Always approach this with the question: “What is my client REALLY trying to accomplish when they work with me and who could I team up with to get an even better outcome?” b. All the time, I hear people say, “I just had a good idea but how do I actually make it happen?”. Firstly, you should never ask,”HOW do I make it happen?”. You should ask, “WHO do I need to talk to?” Whenever you have an idea, no matter how crazy, make at least 3 calls to see if it’s doable. c. One of the key differences between KPIs and everyone else is that KPIs don’t go out looking for clients, they go looking for partnerships and JVs. … KPIs only go networking to find leverage. … To step things up as a KPI, forget looking for clients and start looking for relationships that can really make things happen for both parties. d. A KPI is not interested in chasing sales. A KPI knows that their goal is to attract the right types of opportunities and the right opportunities for a KPI will always be win / win. e. The money is in great partnerships and joint ventures. Whenever you want to take your income up to a higher level, go looking for a higher level partnership or joint venture. 7. Unfortunately, our brains are mostly geared to look for quick, easy wins. You mind will play all sorts of tricks on you to stop you from making it big. 8. The most powerful way to save time, money and mistakes is to learn from others who have walked the path before you. … In this age, its possible to find someone who has done what you want to achieve already and learn from them. It’s called standing on the shoulders of giants. 9. No matter what you need in your business or your life, getting it will be a function of your resourcefulness rather than whether the resources are available. The 3 biggest factors that determine your resourcefulness are: i. The questions you ask ii. The people you know iii. Your willingness to stretch into the unknown 10. Unless you are a child asking your parents for something small, the language of requests does not work very often. You need to learn the language of opportunities. This is where you win, by helping someone else win. When you want something, you express it in a way that works for the person you want assistance from. … Great business people speak the language of opportunity ALL the time. 11. Firstly, get in the habit of spotting great opportunities for others. Quite often I will see something in a blog and email it to a friend. Quite often, I will connect two people who I know can do business together. Often enough I will share an idea with someone if I think it would be beneficial. I don’t spot opportunities for friends because I am looking for an immediate reward. I do it because I believe that it strengthens my network. Given time, a strong network leads to more wealth, more fun and more success. 12. You must focus on your passion and become a KPI in that field. As soon as you are a KPI, you will not even notice opportunities in other industries because you will be swamped with great things to do in your own industry. And the rewards will come thick and fast. 13. Resist the temptation to chase the new thing and keep taking steps closer to the inner circle of the industry you love. 14. … the people who are successful are the ones who commit to things that take them forward, even when they aren’t sure exactly how it will all come together. … there’s never a right time. You will always have challenges going on with either your time, your money or your focus. If something comes along that you know you should do, then do it, and figure it out along the way. 15. Resources show up AFTER Resourcefulness. Resourcefulness shows up AFTER you make a commitment. 16. Without a commitment, humans use too much brain energy on assessment of the idea, the timing and trying to predict an unpredictable future. When you finally commit to an outcome, you free up gallons of energy to become more resourceful in following through. Commit to a big goal (… sign yourself up to some sort of deadline or external commitment) and then start filling in the blanks. 17. Becoming a KPI doesn’t happen for most people because they are waiting for the clearing. They think that “one day” they will have the time, money and focus to get something done. … I ask them, “Why you are working so hard?” They reply. “So I can get some spare time and money to go and do what I want.” … Don’t work for the clearing, work for the result. Ask yourself what it is you actually want to do. Then go and do it. … Bite off more than you can chew and then figure it out as you go. 18. If you don’t become a KPI, you will get stuck chasing revenue, spend too much time searching for (half decent) opportunities and forever feel undervalued. Now, everything Priestley says is logical and makes sense. You know if you followed the advice in the book, you will become a Key Person of Influence. But the challenge is taking effective actions consistently over a period of time without letting yourself come in the way. We all know how to be fit but how many of us are actually able to take the required actions to become fit.
Based on my experience, there are 3 journeys you would need to undertake in parallel to become a Key Person of Influence. Those journeys would give you the depth and mastery to consistently take precise powerful actions as outlined in the book. 1. Leadership Depth - The inner journey of personal transformation for an integrated wheel of life for deeply fulfilling success at work and at home; and for greater impact in the world through living our Purpose of Life. This journey is from Gear 0 to Gear 5, where Gear 0 is when our life is still driven by unconscious fears that create our circumstances. The journey forward is an outcome of moving from limiting habits to growth habits across all the 4 bodies of our Being - physical, mental / intellectual, emotional and spiritual. In Gear 1, you strengthen your Agility of Mind Leadership muscle that has you experience your own greatness, instead of doubting it. It has you finally recognise that your suspicion of self (I am not loved, I am not good enough, I am not important) is just that - a suspicion with no basis in truth; it is simply a paper ghost. In Gear 2, you strengthen your Being of Service Leadership muscle that has you not just intellectually, but viscerally feel for your customer. You genuinely want to make a difference to your customer community for the sake of making an authentic difference, not because you want wealth and fame. In Gear 3, you strengthen your Communicating while Being in the World of Others leadership muscle that has you find your voice and have the courage to speak your truth. In Gear 4, you strengthen your Delivering on Your Word leadership muscle that gives you the depth and humility to have people experience their own greatness in your space and through your work. In Gear 5, you strengthen your Excellence leadership muscle that you gives you access to Personal Mastery and has people relate to each other as extraordinary in your space and through your work. You cannot find your niche if you are not operating from Gear 2 consciousness. You will not have the courage to write your book if you are not operating from Gear 3 consciousness. 2. Business Excellence - The outer journey of professional success by contributing to the communities that we serve through the work we do and leading our organisations / business functions from good to great. This journey is from Mountain 1 to Mountain 5. In Mountain 1, you discover your business idea in alignment with your Purpose of Life. In Mountain 2, you discover your niche iteratively by marrying your Purpose with what’s missing in the world. In Mountain 3, you arrive at a repeatable, scalable, profitable business model through a series of iterative experiments. In Mountain 4, using the repeatable, scalable, profitable business model you arrived at through multiple iterative experiments in Mountain 3, you begin scaling up your business. You need Gear 4 consciousness to create high productivity, performance, creativity and innovation in your organization for the task of scaling up within (your employees) to scale up outside (customers, profitability). In Mountain 5, your business is ready to run without you. Your organization is now a self-sustaining, value creating engine giving you passive income. Only on scaling the 2nd Mountain of the Business Excellence journey will you find your niche and you need to have Gear 2 consciousness for inner power to climb Mountain 2. Only on doing the work required to climb the 3rd Mountain of Business Excellence, will you deepen your understanding of the customer needs and increase your expertise. This will give you the required breakthrough ideas and solutions for the problems faced by your customer community to write the book that is relevant, meaningful and makes a difference. You need Gear 3 consciousness to find your authentic voice and the experience gained from work done till Mountain 3 for content to write your book. To convert your knowledge and experience into an information product that is a runaway success requires you to operate from Gear 4 consciousness. Building a successful profitable information product is needed for you to scale your business and climb Mountain 4. Joint Ventures and Partnerships create value only if you are in Gear 5 consciousness and you have time on your hand as an outcome of being on Mountain 5 to invest in meaningful business relationships. Before, Mountain 5 and Gear 5, spending substantial amount of time on Social Media wastes your energy and distracts you away from Craft Mastery. 3. Craft Mastery - Becoming a key person of influence in our industry through continual learning, unlearning, re-learning to become the master of our craft. This journey also has 5 stages. Stage 1 of Craft Mastery is passive learning through reading the books and researching for information on Google. It starts when you are on Mountain 1 and it helps you to zero down to the domain that fills you up with excitement, passion and joy. Gear 1 consciousness is needed to slow down to learn passively. The usual norm is for people to get excited about an area because there seems to be wealth creation opportunity and quickly invest money for certifications without ploughing through to discover what inspires them, about which community and for what problem. Stage 2 of Craft Mastery is active learning where you are applying your knowledge learnt passively to make a difference to your customer community. This requires Gear 2 consciousness and happens while you are on Mountain 2. This process helps you to zero down on your niche. Stage 3 of Craft Mastery is seeking out mentors of your domain and apprenticing with them to become an expert. This requires Gear 3 consciousness because without your own voice and the courage to speak it, you will merely become a copy of another master and create no differentiated value in the world. Finding your unique take on the problems of your customer community and discovering / inventing a unique, innovative solution helps you to establish yourself on Mountain 3 by arriving at a repeatable, scalable, profitable business model. Stage 4 of Craft Mastery is mentoring others in your industry to become experts (bring them to stage 3). To give away all that you learnt in your journey requires you to be in Gear 4 consciousness and helps you to do the work of scaling up in Mountain 4. In this stage, you seek masters of your domain to apprentice with. Stage 5 of Craft Mastery is mentoring the experts to become mentors (bring them to stage 4). You need Gear 5 consciousness for this work. Creating mentors for your industry helps you to lead your Business to Mountain 5. You have now become the master of your craft, you have become your craft and your craft has become you. You transform your industry through your work, leadership and depth of understanding of your domain. Now, you become a Key Person of Influence. In Stage 2, writing articles to make a difference to your customer community will help you integrate all that you are learning and all your unique experiences to deepen your understanding of your craft and discover innovative solutions for the challenges faced by your customer community. In Stage 3, you are ready to write your book. It will now be a process of reviewing your articles from a fresh perspective and collating them together to create something that is meaningful, impactful and transformational. In Stage 4, while mentoring industry professionals to become experts and having done deep work to write a book, creating an information products for your customer community and industry professionals becomes an almost effortless process. In Stage 5, having established your credibility by writing a book, mentoring professionals and experts, finding the right Joint Ventures becomes the next logical step. Instead of chasing customers and partners, your customers and partners chase you. When that happens, you know that you have arrived. Too often, the journey outside gets the focus without the realization that the success outside is always an outcome of the growth within. I am grateful to Daniel Priestly for his understanding of what it takes to be a Key Personal of Influence as it helped me to clarify lot of concepts in my own head. My reverence for his massive commitment to make a difference to entrepreneurs and professionals by writing this book. Wishing you all the joy of the journey. Stand on the shoulders of the giants to see further than they saw and go further than anyone has gone before. Love, Jyoti. Learning is the only way forward to success. No true learning happens when you are successful because then, you don't feel the need to. Its only when you are down and out, and as yet have the commitment to keep walking the path to create what you want to create that you will dig deep inside to figure out what is missing. 'What is missing?' is a powerful question that leads to an inner and outer search, a fundamental pre-requisite to enormous learning. The opportunity of this question is not available to us in the moments of success. Raising kids is a phenomenal practise in understanding human beings and creating awareness about our own selves. Both my kids played so badly in their recent golf tournament that they were thoroughly embarrassed. Both of them curled up on their bed, having lost all their appetite and having some body ache or the other. I could have sympathised and participated in their self-pity and blamed the course or whatever external circumstance that was there; after all they had played for 5 hours in the rain and then in the scorching heat that followed almost immediately. To release them from the experiential trap of 'failure', I invited them to dig for the Diamond Medal available only if you fail. They weren't interested. Finally, the younger one got curious. I shared a note from my journal for him to release the limiting energy of 'not being good enough' from his body. "I am not sourced in love at the moment. That means I am sourced in Fear. Fear of failing, fear of being laughed at, fear of being ignored, fear of not being respected, fear of not being loved, fear of not being good enough to be loved, fear of a wasted life, fear of being insignificant, fear of not amounting to much, fear of not having it all, fear of not having a deeply fulfilling career and not having loving harmonious relationships with my spouse, parents-in-law, sisters, parents and not having happy responsible kids and not having nourishing nurturing me-time, fear of being disrespected, ignored and unloved by my kids, fear of failing as a coach, as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter, as an entrepreneur, fear of not creating anything from <Company X>, fear of messing up at <Company X>, fear of giving and not receiving, fear of everything I stand for of no value, fear of being a failure in golf, fear of my kids failing in life, fear of my marriage failing inspite of all the struggle of 17 years to continue to hold on to it, fear of divorce, fear of the impact of divorce on the kids, fear of ridicule, fear of humiliation, fear of poverty, fear of losing everything. I embrace all my fears. I welcome failing. I welcome being laughed at. I welcome being ignored. I welcome being disrespected. I welcome not being loved. I welcome not being good enough. I welcome a wasted life. I welcome being insignificant. I welcome not amounting to much. I welcome not having it all. I welcome not having a deeply fulfilling career and not having loving harmonious relationships with my spouse & everyone else and not having happy responsible kids with their genius fully expressed and not having nurturing nourishing me-time. I welcome being disrespected, ignored and unloved by my kids. I welcome failing as a coach, as a mother, as a wife, as a daughter, as an entrepreneur. I welcome not creating anything from <Company X>. I welcome massively messing up at <Company X>. I welcome giving and not receiving. I welcome everything I stand for being of no value, I welcome being a failure in golf. I welcome my kids failing in life. I welcome my marriage failing inspite of all the struggle of 17 years to continue to hold on to it. I welcome divorce. I welcome the impact of divorce on the kids. I welcome ridicule. I welcome humiliation. I welcome poverty. I welcome losing everything. In that welcoming, I love myself the way I am and the way I am not. I have nothing to prove and nowhere to go to earn my own love for myself. I have nothing to prove and nowhere to go to prove to myself I am good enough. I am enough. I am complete. I have nothing to prove and nowhere to go. I am letting go of significance. I am free. I am free. I am free." Our fears are a natural outcome of our evolutionary process of Survival and are hard-wired in our brain. Denying them only pushes them deep underground where they fester to create disease at the level of the physical body and no experience of fulfilling happiness. The only way for growth to happen is to give yourself the permission to experience all your fears. In that acknowledgement, they lose their power. In fully embracing them and welcoming them, they lose their power over us and finally let us be; leaving us to experience expansive authenticity, freedom and joy. Nothing has power over us any more. In expressing and embracing all my fears through the process of journaling, I made a much bigger difference to my client than I could have otherwise; because I was no longer in my way of serving. Fear of not creating no longer cripples me in taking action in alignment with my highest intentions and impossible unimaginable dreams, personally and professionally. Are those fears gone forever? Not really. That is the design - fears will come; and they will go when I stand back and observe. I am not my fears, I have fears. Our default response is to cringe away from them. Only in embracing our fears, not being judgemental of them and ourselves for having them, of having them experience our acknowledgement of their existence do we give ourselves the gift of freedom. In sharing my fears with my son, I let go of my fears even more. In experiencing my fears as he read my journal aloud, his body language changed. The hunching of his shoulders got replaced by him standing tall again, his scrunched-up face suddenly lit up as his face relaxed, his breathing became gentler and more rhythmic. I knew he had escaped the clutches of the paper ghost called 'failure' and now he was ready to be on his Hero's journey once again. He was now ready to go in search of his Diamond Medal, available only if you don't win. I gave him a journal to review and reflect on his experience of the tournament by answering the below 5 questions: 1. How am I feeling? 2. What worked well? 3. What could have been better? 4. What are my learnings from here? 5. What actions will I take to implement these learnings? My heart filled-up reading what he had written, what his Diamond Medal was. It was even more precious than any success I had experienced before. He discovered that he needed to focus on his game and not on the game of others, that being angry at a bad swing came in the way of playing well, that sleeping on time and getting up on time on a daily basis will ensure he is not lethargic during early mornings of the tournament days, that eating food and exercising would help him to have more energy to play, and that he needed to practise so much more for his craft mastery. This humbling acknowledgement after his self-inquiry had much greater impact on him, than all the directives I had been giving him telling him what he should or should not do. After this bit of work, he immediately came home to himself - totally lit up, full of energy & enthusiasm and joyous love & passion for the sport; ready to play another tournament, the loss no longer sucking his blood like a leech. Interestingly, all body aches and tiredness vanished. In sharp contrast, my older one moved around like a wounded soldier - lifeless, tired, exhausted with aches in the head, feet and everywhere else. She processed her emotions by sleeping through. Though, yesterday she told me that she wants to dig out the Diamond Medal too. So, we are off on the search today :-) There is a reason I shared all of this with you and the reason is for you to answer these questions for greater self-awareness and growth: 1. What did you learn about the design of a human being from this sharing? 2. How will you apply this learning in your life, personally and professionally? 3. How will you lead differently, at work and at home? 4. What will you do differently next time you experience your heart sinking or stomach churning? 5. What are you feeling at the moment? Keep giving yourself the permission to drop your layers to come home to yourself and embrace your innate greatness. Love, Jyoti. "Mastery is not a question of genetics or luck, but of following your natural inclinations and the deep desire that stirs you from within. Everyone has such inclinations. This desire within you is not motivated by egotism or sheer ambition for power, both of which are emotions that get in the way of mastery. It is instead a deep expression of something natural, something that marked you at birth as unique. In following your inclinations and moving toward mastery, you make a great contribution toward society. It is in fact the height of selfishness to merely consume what others create and to retreat into a shell of limited goals and immediate pleasure. Alienating yourself from your inclinations can only lead you to pain and disappointment in the long run, and a sense that you have wasted something unique. This pain will be expressed in bitterness and envy, and you will not recognize the true source of your depression." - Mastery by Robert Greene Working on being masters of our craft is far more joyous and fulfilling than chasing success. Wealth and success follow Craft Mastery and not the other way around. To walk the path of mastery requires Leadership Depth, which is an inner journey of personal transformation to go beyond evolutionary fear hard-wired in our brains. Love, Jyoti. To grow as a leader requires one to be deeply self-aware and have a structure to keep seeing one's own blind spots. Growth can come no other way. Self-awareness and Blind Spot chasing is the first step in your Leadership Journey. Distinguishing your Enneagram (pronounced as ANY-a-gram) Style helps you to catch your default limiting habits and responses, which make us captive to our worldview. It is like literally being caught up in a box. Both professional and personal growth requires us to break free from this box. The Enneagram is a study of the 9 basic types of people and explains why we behave the way we do and points to specific directions for individual growth. It is an important tool to understand yourself and people around you better; which is your pathway to greater business success, and harmonious relationships at work & at home. Here are few great resources for you to get started: a. An article: https://personalityhacker.com/understanding-the-enneagram/ b. A book: The Enneagram Made Easy by Renee Baron & Elizabeth Wagele c. My Coach Clarence Thomson: Though I first got introduced to the Enneagram in a transformational coaching program by Brandon Bays, Clarence (who is a leading expert in this area) has greatly helped me to deepen my skills. Here's where to find him - http://www.enneagramcentral.com/ Enjoy your journey to yourself. Love, Jyoti. We grow to be who we are because of the communities and relationships that we are a part of. I believe the communities and relationships we are a part of is not a mere co-incidence. We end-up with the relationships and the communities that we do because those are exactly what we need the most for our journey to our highest self and we are meant to contribute back to those relationships & communities. This post is in acknowledgement and gratitude for being a part of the schools, colleges, organisations that I have been and am a part of; the village, town, cities, country that I belong to; the sisterhood that I am a fragment of; the humanity that holds all of me; my parents, spouse, kids, in-laws, sisters, friends who most bear the brunt and the pain of my evolution; my coaches, teachers and clients who make my journey in this lifetime possible. Pratima Sherpa started playing golf at the age of 11 with a stick cut into a club-shape by her father who is a labourer at the Royal Nepal Golf Club. By the time she turned 17, Pratima had won 33 tournaments. She had a private lesson from Tiger Woods and walked the red carpet for the premiere of the documentary on her life. Click below to watch her incredibly beautiful heart-warming story to be inspired and moved into action to take your life to the next level. All of 18-years now, still staying in a dinghy maintenance shed behind the 3rd green of the Royal Nepal Golf Club, she is dreaming to win the qualifying tournament to become her country's first female professional golfer; so that she earns money to support her parents to live in decent living quarters. This is a story of the unfolding of a dream, the destiny of each human being. As we grow older, we allow our dreams to fold-up, push the stars from our eyes into the dusty corners of our heart and pretend life is good. That is why we lose our productivity, effectiveness, creativity, purpose, aliveness. Let the dream arise. Give yourself the permission to let your heart beat to its rhythm. That is when we will have good leaders become great, transforming their businesses from good to great. Link to the story on You-Tube - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BDsE3E7AmFc There are four paths of personal transformation, four ways to experience your own greatness by letting your light shine through to illuminate the world: 1. Karma Yoga - Be the best in the job that you do with the focus on making a difference to others through your work, without being needy for a successful outcome. 2. Bhakti Yoga - This is the path of love, relating to God as an expression of love. This is the path of childlike trust and faith in the Universe; path of giving our own self and each one in our space unconditional love and acceptance. 3. Raja Yoga - On this path, we progress by controlling our mind, emotions, body, energy and senses through meditation, asanas, pranayama etc. 4. Gyan Yoga - This is the most difficult path, requiring tremendous strength of will and intellect. This path is about breaking the glass ceiling between ourselves and the Universal Consciousness. We need to have learnt and integrated the lessons from the above 3 paths before we can walk on this one. Consider your job or your business as the playground on which you have to play the above four games to be a Gear 5 Leader, the Peaceful Warrior who has it all - deeply fulfilling successful career, joyful relationships, happy responsible kids and lots of nourishing me-time; making a huge difference to the world, leaving foot-prints in the sand of time. This is the way to transform from being a hard-working, fighter High Performer to a joyous, peaceful warrior Super Performer who effortlessly has it all. The only thing that separates the two are habits - emotional, physical, mental and spiritual. The transformation to being a Super Performer is then only a matter of your mindful choice, moment by moment Love, Jyoti. Growth lies in the direction of what you fear, what you resist and what is difficult. Using this guiding principle, making choices becomes a very simple, an almost effortless process :-) Should I play on the easier course or the course where I lost 5 balls last time, should I travel to the US for a training or sign up for another video conference coaching program, should I take the kids for tournaments around the country or let them continue to play on their home course, should I seek forgiveness from my home support staff because I shouted at her or should I just pretend nothing happened, should I challenge the yes or simply accept the cheque from a new client, should I please my clients or tell them what they don't want to hear, tell them what others in their life don't have the courage to tell them, take them to places where they are scared to go though that's where their highest growth lies. Every time a choice shows up, my mind groans because it hates what it fears, what it resists and what it finds difficult; and it knows what choice I will make because I am not my mind. I have a mind. I am not my thoughts and emotions. I have thoughts and emotions. Then who am I? I am my commitment - commitment to be love, gratitude, reverence, integrity and mastery. It is the expression of my highest self. And, commitment doesn't shift because of who I am interfacing with, what my circumstances are, the chaos that is outside or inside. Sure, I fall off the path many moments along the way. What moves me forward is making the choice to keep coming back. Take a moment for inquiry and reflection - Who are YOU? What moves me forward is also the understanding that at the Starter level, we will be on the path only 20% of the time. 80% of the time, we will fall off, come back to the path after restoring our word to ourselves. After being a Starter, we gather enough muscle to move on to the Champion level where we are on the path 80% of the time and 20% of the time, we will fall off and make the choice to come back. Its only at the Mastery level, are we on the path 100% of the time. The challenge is we give up at the Starter level, making ourselves wrong for having fallen off the path not realising mastery is certain as long as we keep getting up to walk after every fall. Wishing you strength, courage and conviction to walk on your path to who YOU are to experience authentic joy, fulfilment, freedom, abundance and success. Love, Jyoti. Fear is actually a mechanism for self-protection and is inherent in the human psyche because of our evolutionary process. Charles Darwin called it the Survival of the Fittest. Survival instinct is an indication of the presence of Fear. So, for billions of years, Life has been motivated by Fear. If there is Life, there is Fear. Our brains are hard-wired with that ingredient. The very thing that supported us to survive is the very thing that comes in the way of our further evolution and transformation. Fear got us to this point, it cannot take us any further. It is a vestigial organ in the Body of Humanity. What is Fear? Just as darkness is an absence of light, fear is an absence of love; love for self to begin with, evolving to love for all beings. There are essentially three primary fears that we humans have - a. I am not good enough. b. I am not important. c. I am all alone. No one loves me. Transformation to our highest self is a five stage process that transmutes the default fear circuitry of the mind by shining on the absence the presence of the light called love: a. Unconscious - At this stage, we are unconscious of our fears. We unconsciously spend time pushing our fears under the carpet so as not to see them. We create our circumstances, the way people and Life treat us but we are blind to us being at the source of all that is created around us. We experience being trapped with no access out. We may even be so unconscious that we hide the experience of being trapped itself from our own selves and coat our existence with a pretence of 'Life is Good'. Lets call it being at Gear 0 of our Growth Cycle. In Gear 0, there's too much work, too little time. We are racing through life, from moment to moment, from pillar to post. We are victim of other people, situations, circumstances. Health is an issue. We are busy being busy. We are constantly seeking approval and appreciation but when it comes, it does not fulfil. We have no Power to Create. b. Conscious - As we move forward in our own individual journey of growth, we become conscious of our fears. We begin to become conscious of the emptiness inside inspite of all the success outside. We begin to see the connection between our fears and our circumstances; between our fears and the way people & Life treats us; though only after the mess has been created, after the devastation has taken place. And, as yet, we can do nothing to escape because we become conscious only after we have created the mess, only after it is too late to do anything. This is Gear 1 of our Growth Cycle. After the mess of experiencing a life-threatening disease or loss of a loved one or relationship breakdown or career breakdown or any other intense experience of failure, we have a choice to either allow ourselves to break down or make the choice to become conscious and continue the evolutionary process of growth towards our highest self. In Gear 1, we give ourselves the permission to experience ourselves as extra-ordinary and to give unconditional love & acceptance to one's own self. We make the choice to love, acknowledge, appreciate and approve ourselves instead of seeking it from others. This creates deep stillness within with nowhere to go and nothing to prove. We strengthen our Agility of Mind leadership muscle to be able to jump from Gear 0 to Gear 1. There are various personal practises across the four bodies (physical, mental / intellectual, emotional, spiritual) of our Being that give us the inner strength to make this massive shift in human consciousness. One such practise is to write acknowledgements for one's own self on a daily basis. This practise requires huge agility of mind. c. Awareness - If we continue walking towards our highest self, the next stage is Awareness. At this stage, we are fully aware that we are at the source of all that is in our life. We begin to understand how the outer world is truly a mirror of our inner world. We are aware of the fear, thought, emotion, words, actions as they arise in that order in our body to create the limiting outcome in the world outside. Though, as yet, we are still caught up in our limiting physical, emotional, mental and spiritual habits that do not allow us to create anything different. This is Gear 2 of our Growth Cycle. This is the challenge of life. If you stay in one place, you die. It is only in continuously growing that we stay alive. At some point, we need to make the choice to step up to Gear 2 or risk falling back to Gear 0. In Gear 2, we make the choice to relate to every other being as extra-ordinary and to give our unconditional love & acceptance to all beings, however they are and however they are not. We experience Oneness with the Universe. We are at home everywhere and with everyone. We strengthen our Being of Service leadership muscle to shift gears from 1 to 2 to move forward on our journey to our highest self with greater velocity. The practise of Gratitude and Positive Aspects serves us powerfully in this gear. d. Creation - As we journey forward, we finally begin to experience our inner power to create. Due to deep inner work, we cause a massive shift in human consciousness in our own self. Moment by moment; as the Fear arises, we get access to choose Love over Fear. As a limiting thought, emotion, word, action arises in that order; we have created a large enough gap to be able to choose a limitless thought leading to a limitless emotion leading to positive words leading to powerful, effective actions creating a whole new reality, not available to us before. We begin to experience positive shifts in all the areas of our wheel of life - career, relationships, kids, finances, health etc. This is Gear 3 in our Growth Cycle. In this gear, we finally experience love, appreciation and respect from people around us. We experience others' deep love, gratitude and reverence for who we are as human beings. We experience others experiencing us as extra-ordinary. Isn't this what we all yearn for? The problem is that we are trying to scramble for this from Gear 0, where it is not available. We can only experience it if we cycle up to Gear 3. Gear 3 is the Journey to Nothingness. We experience the powerful creative energy of being Nothing. Ego (which is Fear pretending to be us) dissolves and we experience Effortless Existence. We strengthen our Communicating in the World of Others leadership muscle to change the gears from 2 to 3. Committed Listening, Childlike Trust and Faith, Leading with Questions are some powerful practises that help us to strengthen ourselves to drive forward the car of our Being with velocity and purpose. e. Leadership - We continue our journey of growth and evolution by continuously doing deep inner work across all the four bodies of our Being to step into Leadership. This is when we can finally lay claim to becoming a Leader from the inside. Without reaching this gear, we are only pretending to be Leaders that we truly are not. This is Gear 4 in our Growth Cycle. When we have massively shifted our human consciousness to be in Gear 4, others experience themselves as Extra-ordinary and experience deep Love, Gratitude & Reverence for themselves in our space. This is when the Leader in us is born. We experience significant Power to Create in the world outside. To shift to Gear 4, we strengthen the Delivering on My Word leadership muscle. Me and my word are the same. We journey to Everyoneness. It is here at this stage that we feel an authentic connection with each one. The smile spreads from our mouth to our eyes and our heart to everyone else around us. We are centred, we feel settled, a peaceful sense of joyous abundance spreads all around us and inside us, and suddenly we can do so much more than was possible before. Sickness gives way to well-being; relationship breakdown transforms into deep friendship; a failed business rises up to profitability, market leadership and success; an estranged child comes home into our loving embrace; any left-over cynicism and resignation disintegrate totally, and is replaced by the joyous celebration of being alive. f. Mastery - The purpose of each one of us in our lifetime is to journey to our own greatness through personal mastery. This is Gear 5 of our Growth Cycle. In our space, when we are in Gear 5, people experience each other as Extra-ordinary and experience deep Love, Gratitude and Reverence for each other. The Master is born. There is Mastery of Life itself. We strengthen Excellence leadership muscle to shift gears from 4 to 5. Power to Create is in full bloom. We intend and it gets created almost instantaneously. We experience Effortless Creation and Journey to Everythingness. It is here that we finally have the power to Have It All - deeply fulfilling, successful career; loving, harmonious relationships; happy responsible healthy kids with their genius joyfully expressed; lots of nourishing, nurturing me-time; while making a huge difference in the world through our work; leaving footprints in the sand of time, having forever moved humanity forward with an act of one person being on this Journey of personal mastery. It is as if we were Peaceful Warriors on our Hero's Journey, fighting an inner battle with the Fear monster which obstructs us from embracing our Inner Light, our innate Greatness. By removing the thick heavy curtain of darkness separating us from our Light and stepping into our Greatness, we contribute to the evolution of the human species on this planet. Here are some fascinating figures from Doctor Hawkins' 29 years of research on the hidden determinants of human behaviour (as quoted by Dr Wayne Dyer in his book The Power of Intention): 1. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of optimism and a willingness to be non-judgemental of others, will counterbalance the negativity of 90,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels. 2. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of pure love and reverence for all of life will counterbalance the negativity of 750,000 individuals who calibrate at the lower weakening levels. 3. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of illumination, bliss, and infinite peace will counterbalance the negativity of 10 million people who calibrate at the lower weakening levels. 4. One individual who lives and vibrates to the energy of grace, pure spirit beyond the body, in a world of non-duality or complete oneness, will counterbalance the negativity of 70 million people who calibrate at the lower weakening levels. It all is about how each one of us works, leads and lives. Welcome home to your Hero's Journey. Love, Jyoti. |
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